"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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How about a forties plus forum?

THE ROCK

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Have you considered opening up an over forties forum. I post extremely rarely, but read every day, and lot of what I seem to read on the main forum seems to be be geared to the late teens, early twenties age group. It seems that rarely do I read any posts from posters in the forty to fifty age group, which is where I am, about their experiences in dealing with women who are forty plus.

There must be men out there who are in my age group that would like to read about experiences and get tips from our own age group.

Thoughts?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Eww
 

Soshyopathe

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It's because by the time you are 40, you should have life figured out forward and backward. If you are still lost mid-life, might as well jump off a building.

Plus, you may be the only 40+ around here.
 

Aztec

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There are probably won't be alot of participants in that category. You are right about the discussions are geared to the late teens and early twenties. Maybe that's why alot of veteran contributors left the site, or at least went into hiding.

I suggested a section for late 20's and above in the past.
 

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guys give the rock a break...its not HIS fault this site wasnt available for him 20 years ago...i agree with ya man..there should be a small discussion area for people like you; i mean, after all, you CAN still find a women, and everyone deserves the chance to learn the DJ tactics.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Aztec

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Originally posted by machoguy123:
guys give the rock a break...its not HIS fault this site wasnt available for him 20 years ago...i agree with ya man..there should be a small discussion area for people like you; i mean, after all, you CAN still find a women, and everyone deserves the chance to learn the DJ tactics.
Oh I agree with The Rock. We should have a forum for more matured population.
 

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You might be surprised how many older guys hang out here.

We used to have a "Mature Man" forum. All the mature men preferred to post in the main forum.
 

I_Eat_Playdough

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Well maybe the term "mature man" sucked and no one wanted to post there.

May as well call it "Old geezer forum for the bald"
 

RDtoo

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Originally posted by I_Eat_Playdough:
Well maybe the term "mature man" sucked and no one wanted to post there.

May as well call it "Old geezer forum for the bald"
Im with the Rock. New here. This is my first post. I am in my 40s and yes, trying to figure out the dating game. No problem with approaching women, eye contact, etc, but not seeing any action, thus I ended up here. Hope I can contribute some things here and there, but would like to see advice for older budding DJs.
 

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I posted to this last night but it didnt show up. I am new here and 40 plus. Have been learning alot from the DJ Bible and fianally decided to register. Kudos to the webmaster for all the valuable info. I would be interested in a forum or at least some more threads geared towards the older males. Unlike some of the younger guys I do not have any problems approaching women, but still alone enough to seek advice, and here I am. I am surprized at a few of the comments that seem to think that it is sick for an older guy to be a budding DJ. You would think they would give us credit. Believe it or not guys, women like a fine wine, get better with age, but the game remains the same.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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We did have a Mature forum here and I think it was called the "Mature forum."

The website admin (Allen) reworked the forums and that forum was dropped due to low participation. The Humor forum was also dropped. The HS, Archive and anything else forums were added.

[This message has been edited by Paradox (edited 10-02-2002).]
 
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