Many of my college friends ask how they can get girls to notice them. I tell them to be outgoing and sociable. I'll take them with me to a gathering and observe their techniques. What I often find is their inability or unwillingness to contribute in a conversation. I tell them that this is THE easiest way to sell yourself. Let me elaborate.
Socializing is an artform that must be sculpted for one to be successful. A common mistake I find guys make is talking technical talk that few in the party will understand. Yes, he thinks he's leading an interesting conversation but rather, he is boring the masses with his monologue. A Don finds a topic that all can relate to and enjoy.
When trying to approach an unknown woman in a group, I find initially talking AROUND her works wonders. The indirect approach is extremely difficult to pull off and if glances, nervous smiles, and distance are not kept in check, she will call your bluff. Take note of those in her party and find connections with her friends and any aquaintances you have (Try and always have at least one). When you find mutual friends, enter their conversation. Talk to your buds and laugh and smile. Do NOT overdo it but be noticeable. Your buddy's girlfriends will introduce themselves or your friend will and as names pass, your targeted girl will come over as not to be left out. Smile coyly and keep the conversation flowing smoothly but still don't pay her too much attention. Look at her only if she speaks. As smaller chit chat circles form, find a way to be in hers. Keep talking around her but don't show any closed gestures and stay friendly. The key is to be socialable, just not with her. Be patient, she will wait awhile to see your actions. She will be intrigued with your demeanor and assume that you have status.
By this time she will be dying for you to talk to her because any other schmuck would have hit on her by now. You however are a Don and keep your wits about you. Most likely she will be asking you so many questions that you don't need to do much (becuase you are now a man of mystery) but if she's shy, now start talking to her and another friend, each time making the conversation circle smaller and smaller until it's just you two. Then ask her related questions or how her pals know yours. This is making her comfortable with you because of mutual friends.
Keep your patience and stay relaxed. I've seen so many guys get this far and then blow it by showing too much interest too soon. If she gets up to go with her friends to the bathroom, don't trail her. She will notice. Stay where you are and talk to your friends and she will come back to you if she's interested (she is). Repeat process, add a dash of charm, she's ready for serving.
"Pimpin' ain't easy"
-The Godfather
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~milesman
Socializing is an artform that must be sculpted for one to be successful. A common mistake I find guys make is talking technical talk that few in the party will understand. Yes, he thinks he's leading an interesting conversation but rather, he is boring the masses with his monologue. A Don finds a topic that all can relate to and enjoy.
When trying to approach an unknown woman in a group, I find initially talking AROUND her works wonders. The indirect approach is extremely difficult to pull off and if glances, nervous smiles, and distance are not kept in check, she will call your bluff. Take note of those in her party and find connections with her friends and any aquaintances you have (Try and always have at least one). When you find mutual friends, enter their conversation. Talk to your buds and laugh and smile. Do NOT overdo it but be noticeable. Your buddy's girlfriends will introduce themselves or your friend will and as names pass, your targeted girl will come over as not to be left out. Smile coyly and keep the conversation flowing smoothly but still don't pay her too much attention. Look at her only if she speaks. As smaller chit chat circles form, find a way to be in hers. Keep talking around her but don't show any closed gestures and stay friendly. The key is to be socialable, just not with her. Be patient, she will wait awhile to see your actions. She will be intrigued with your demeanor and assume that you have status.
By this time she will be dying for you to talk to her because any other schmuck would have hit on her by now. You however are a Don and keep your wits about you. Most likely she will be asking you so many questions that you don't need to do much (becuase you are now a man of mystery) but if she's shy, now start talking to her and another friend, each time making the conversation circle smaller and smaller until it's just you two. Then ask her related questions or how her pals know yours. This is making her comfortable with you because of mutual friends.
Keep your patience and stay relaxed. I've seen so many guys get this far and then blow it by showing too much interest too soon. If she gets up to go with her friends to the bathroom, don't trail her. She will notice. Stay where you are and talk to your friends and she will come back to you if she's interested (she is). Repeat process, add a dash of charm, she's ready for serving.
"Pimpin' ain't easy"
-The Godfather
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~milesman
