Because I have contacts in various fields, I have sometimes experienced the phenomenon where I meet a hot girl who makes it clear she does not want to spend time with me, but expects me to introduce her to particular people in the field who may be of use to her. Initially as an AFC, I would introduce her to be "nice", and then never hear from her again. I later learnt to ignore these requests, but then of course I would never hear from the girls again either. Most recently, I had a girl ask me to introduce her to a very prominent book editor. I was having dinner with this editor, so I invited her along. She replied that she could not make it and showed no interest in seeing me again, but still wanted me to give her an introduction to the publisher. Can anyone suggest an approach that would allow me to use these girl's interest in my connections to my dating advantage? Or is it a case where I should ignore such requests as if the girl is not interested, nothing I can offer her will change that?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
How 2 react when a Hot Girl wants nothing to do with me, but wants something from me?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
KontrollerX
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See if there is anything they can do for you first.
Reciprocity or nothing.
Favor for a favor.
If they are not willing to deal and just want to treat you like you are their personal errand boy treat them like the nothings that they are and ignore their requests and their very presence.
Reciprocity or nothing.
Favor for a favor.
If they are not willing to deal and just want to treat you like you are their personal errand boy treat them like the nothings that they are and ignore their requests and their very presence.
I.A.F.Y.B.
Master Don Juan
I'm speechless here... Why the hell do you let women use you so they can meet people you know? Though they say to your face; "They don't like you or want anything to do with you..." But, you being a "nice guy" will introduce these b1tches to guys you know!! :crackup: Grab your balls and tell these gals to fvck off. Or tell those hors you'll introduce them to the "top doggs" you know for; sex, money, bl0wj0bs, ect. Get what you can!!
I have a co-worker that is like that. She is a legitimate 9.5 or higher, when we walk across the street for lunch she gets hit on twice each way, it's crazy.
Anyway, she has no shame to call any of her guy friends ugly, that she'd never date/mess around with them because they're ugly, etc. But if they have money she'll humor them for free drinks or for networking. It's pretty amusing that she doesn't even see anything wrong with that, I think she said once that basically it's like him paying "to be seen with her". She's totally full of herself.
Without being cliche, she's one of the ugliest people "on the inside" I've ever met. She has no shame to be obnoxiously cruel to anyone to their face, cause a scene anywhere (note: we're in downtown Chicago, so there's always a crowd), and openly admit that she "knows a lot of people she wouldn't normally talk to if they didn't have money". Gold digger doesn't even begin to describe her. But I digress.
I wouldn't help her. If she does something for you, then it'd be a different story, but for those type of people, I'm always very wary. They always have alternate intentions.
Anyway, she has no shame to call any of her guy friends ugly, that she'd never date/mess around with them because they're ugly, etc. But if they have money she'll humor them for free drinks or for networking. It's pretty amusing that she doesn't even see anything wrong with that, I think she said once that basically it's like him paying "to be seen with her". She's totally full of herself.
Without being cliche, she's one of the ugliest people "on the inside" I've ever met. She has no shame to be obnoxiously cruel to anyone to their face, cause a scene anywhere (note: we're in downtown Chicago, so there's always a crowd), and openly admit that she "knows a lot of people she wouldn't normally talk to if they didn't have money". Gold digger doesn't even begin to describe her. But I digress.
I wouldn't help her. If she does something for you, then it'd be a different story, but for those type of people, I'm always very wary. They always have alternate intentions.
Oh don't worry, I just ignore these chicks now, as I said in my first psot. I was just asking if there was anything I could leverage out of these chicks, but seems like there isn't ...I.A.F.Y.B. said:I'm speechless here... Why the hell do you let women use you so they can meet people you know? Though they say to your face; "They don't like you or want anything to do with you..." But, you being a "nice guy" will introduce these b1tches to guys you know!! :crackup: Grab your balls and tell these gals to fvck off. Or tell those hors you'll introduce them to the "top doggs" you know for; sex, money, bl0wj0bs, ect. Get what you can!!
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
KontrollerX said:See if there is anything they can do for you first.
Reciprocity or nothing.
Favor for a favor.
If they are not willing to deal and just want to treat you like you are their personal errand boy treat them like the nothings that they are and ignore their requests and their very presence.
Sounds good, but how would I do about doing that?