Because I have contacts in various fields, I have sometimes experienced the phenomenon where I meet a hot girl who makes it clear she does not want to spend time with me, but expects me to introduce her to particular people in the field who may be of use to her. Initially as an AFC, I would introduce her to be "nice", and then never hear from her again. I later learnt to ignore these requests, but then of course I would never hear from the girls again either. Most recently, I had a girl ask me to introduce her to a very prominent book editor. I was having dinner with this editor, so I invited her along. She replied that she could not make it and showed no interest in seeing me again, but still wanted me to give her an introduction to the publisher. Can anyone suggest an approach that would allow me to use these girl's interest in my connections to my dating advantage? Or is it a case where I should ignore such requests as if the girl is not interested, nothing I can offer her will change that?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
How 2 react when a Hot Girl wants nothing to do with me, but wants something from me?
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
KontrollerX
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See if there is anything they can do for you first.
Reciprocity or nothing.
Favor for a favor.
If they are not willing to deal and just want to treat you like you are their personal errand boy treat them like the nothings that they are and ignore their requests and their very presence.
Reciprocity or nothing.
Favor for a favor.
If they are not willing to deal and just want to treat you like you are their personal errand boy treat them like the nothings that they are and ignore their requests and their very presence.
I.A.F.Y.B.
Master Don Juan
I'm speechless here... Why the hell do you let women use you so they can meet people you know? Though they say to your face; "They don't like you or want anything to do with you..." But, you being a "nice guy" will introduce these b1tches to guys you know!! :crackup: Grab your balls and tell these gals to fvck off. Or tell those hors you'll introduce them to the "top doggs" you know for; sex, money, bl0wj0bs, ect. Get what you can!!
I have a co-worker that is like that. She is a legitimate 9.5 or higher, when we walk across the street for lunch she gets hit on twice each way, it's crazy.
Anyway, she has no shame to call any of her guy friends ugly, that she'd never date/mess around with them because they're ugly, etc. But if they have money she'll humor them for free drinks or for networking. It's pretty amusing that she doesn't even see anything wrong with that, I think she said once that basically it's like him paying "to be seen with her". She's totally full of herself.
Without being cliche, she's one of the ugliest people "on the inside" I've ever met. She has no shame to be obnoxiously cruel to anyone to their face, cause a scene anywhere (note: we're in downtown Chicago, so there's always a crowd), and openly admit that she "knows a lot of people she wouldn't normally talk to if they didn't have money". Gold digger doesn't even begin to describe her. But I digress.
I wouldn't help her. If she does something for you, then it'd be a different story, but for those type of people, I'm always very wary. They always have alternate intentions.
Anyway, she has no shame to call any of her guy friends ugly, that she'd never date/mess around with them because they're ugly, etc. But if they have money she'll humor them for free drinks or for networking. It's pretty amusing that she doesn't even see anything wrong with that, I think she said once that basically it's like him paying "to be seen with her". She's totally full of herself.
Without being cliche, she's one of the ugliest people "on the inside" I've ever met. She has no shame to be obnoxiously cruel to anyone to their face, cause a scene anywhere (note: we're in downtown Chicago, so there's always a crowd), and openly admit that she "knows a lot of people she wouldn't normally talk to if they didn't have money". Gold digger doesn't even begin to describe her. But I digress.
I wouldn't help her. If she does something for you, then it'd be a different story, but for those type of people, I'm always very wary. They always have alternate intentions.
Oh don't worry, I just ignore these chicks now, as I said in my first psot. I was just asking if there was anything I could leverage out of these chicks, but seems like there isn't ...I.A.F.Y.B. said:I'm speechless here... Why the hell do you let women use you so they can meet people you know? Though they say to your face; "They don't like you or want anything to do with you..." But, you being a "nice guy" will introduce these b1tches to guys you know!! :crackup: Grab your balls and tell these gals to fvck off. Or tell those hors you'll introduce them to the "top doggs" you know for; sex, money, bl0wj0bs, ect. Get what you can!!
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
KontrollerX said:See if there is anything they can do for you first.
Reciprocity or nothing.
Favor for a favor.
If they are not willing to deal and just want to treat you like you are their personal errand boy treat them like the nothings that they are and ignore their requests and their very presence.
Sounds good, but how would I do about doing that?