"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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House passes bill that could lead to a TikTok ban; fight shifts to the Senate

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Given what is being discussed it would seem that at least a few of the posters in this thread think that “da gubmint” wants to shut down TikTok. It doesn’t, it wants the Chinese to sell their portion of its control to a US based buyer, who is subject to US laws and not just be able to collect our information for a foreign, and hostile government intelligence apparatus.

The main issue is its ownership not that anyone wants to stifle “free speech”. Don’t be a low information poster.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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So, when we talk about the whole "public square" idea in relation to the First Amendment, it gets a bit tricky with online forums. See, the First Amendment is all about keeping the government from messing with our speech and gatherings, ensuring we can speak our minds freely in public spaces. But here's the twist: online forums aren't really public spaces in the legal sense because private companies run them. It's like they're inviting us into their digital living rooms to chat.

These companies get to set the house rules, deciding what can and can't be said on their platforms. So, if they want to remove a post or moderate a discussion, they're totally within their rights without stepping on First Amendment toes. It's a bit like having a metaphorical digital public square, where we all gather to share ideas and opinions, but without the same legal protections you'd find in a physical town square.

Now, there's a ton of ongoing chatter about how these digital platforms fit into our world of free speech, especially considering how big a role they play in our conversations today. People are debating whether there should be some balance between allowing free speech and keeping the online world safe from harm, misinformation, and the like. And then there's the big question: should these digital gathering spots be regulated somehow because of their massive influence on public discourse?

The TikTok discussion also begs a question about The Fourth Amendment to the United States Constitution that speaks of the right of people to be secure in their persons, houses, papers, and effects, against unreasonable searches and seizures. It states that this right shall not be violated, and no Warrants shall issue, but upon probable cause, supported by Oath or affirmation, and particularly describing the place to be searched, and the persons or things to be seized. This amendment provides a fundamental protection against arbitrary governmental intrusion.

Given the Chinese routinely breach privacy in collecting information from the US aka espionage.

All my points are made in the spirit of “you cannot have it both ways”.

Yeah... There's a larger conversation to be had regarding the culture of free speech https://www.thefire.org/news/free-speech-culture-elon-musk-and-twitter , and the shi-ty state it's currently in. The law and policy aren't helpful, when a substantial portion of the citizenry believes that they're doing God's work, by stifling speech they deem either "Problematic" or(on the other end of the sociopolitical continuum) "Blue Pill"

Both of which are just stand-in terms for blasphemy/heresy
 

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Given what is being discussed it would seem that at least a few of the posters in this thread think that “da gubmint” wants to shut down TikTok. It doesn’t, it wants the Chinese to sell their portion of its control to a US based buyer, who is subject to US laws and not just be able to collect our information for a foreign, and hostile government intelligence apparatus.

The main issue is its ownership not that anyone wants to stifle “free speech”. Don’t be a low information poster.
The US government admits outright that they're forcing a corporation to sell TikTok, under pain of it being banned if they don't. We can try to write what I'm about to say off as a slippery slope argument, nonetheless: If Big Brother succeeds here, how much longer do we think it will be before they start pulling crap like this with private businesses here in The States?
 

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How do you propose we deal with the issue at hand? The Chinese government conducting surveillance on the US population?
 

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How do you propose we deal with the issue at hand? The Chinese government conducting surveillance on the US population?
I question the notion that Red China(Or anyone else, for that matter)needs TikTok to gain personal information about Americans, along with the assertion that transferring it into American hands will cripple anyone's capacity for espionage. We speak as if accessing personal information hasn't, for the past two decades now, been easier than persuading Emily Ratajkowki to walk around in public naked, when this is demonstrably untrue
 
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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An online property is not the “public square” it is private property so 1st Amendment rights do not apply, if they did I could demand that the New York Times publish my oped.

no shirt, no shoes, no service

p.s. the Chinese are up to no good, we know this they engage in spycraft in the US all the time - last week another scientist was convicted. If you think they’re not enabling in shady Shiite with TikTok you’re not paying attention.
Actually, back when there were few media outlets (i.e., pre-internet), there was a law that said that if a station aired an opinion, an interested party could demand that the station show a contrary opinion as per that party. With the internet, of course, every website is a station.
 

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Well you're free to hold your own opinion on this, I'd rather heed the warnings of the experts:







I question the notion that Red China(Or anyone else, for that matter)needs TikTok to gain personal information about Americans, along with the assertion that transferring it into American hands will cripple anyone's capacity for espionage. We speak as if accessing personal information hasn't, for the past two decades now, been easier than persuading Emily Ratajkowki to walk around in public naked, when this is demonstrably untrue
 

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Well you're free to hold your own opinion on this, I'd rather heed the warnings of the experts:







It's likely too late to prevent The House from going through with this. I'm inclined to wonder out loud again though: Do we really believe that The US government won't now be emboldened to pull similar crap with corporations here in The US, using national security as a pre-text?
 

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It's likely too late to prevent The House from going through with this. I'm inclined to wonder out loud again though: Do we really believe that The US government won't now be emboldened to pull similar crap with corporations here in The US, using national security as a pre-text?
Possibly but so is the possibility of a number of things.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I agree. The issue is that the Chinese Gov. are in control of TikTok and are spying on Americans. The Chinese Gov. controls just about every aspect of their citizens life. They control your bank account....look it up.
If I were American, I'd be more concerned about my own government spying on me.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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An online property is not the “public square” it is private property so 1st Amendment rights do not apply, if they did I could demand that the New York Times publish my oped.

no shirt, no shoes, no service

p.s. the Chinese are up to no good, we know this they engage in spycraft in the US all the time - last week another scientist was convicted. If you think they’re not enabling in shady Shiite with TikTok you’re not paying attention.
Agreed. 100%
 

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An online property is not the “public square” it is private property so 1st Amendment rights do not apply, if they did I could demand that the New York Times publish my oped.
The first amendment applies to protecting any speech from government suppression. A content based app is no different from a printing press.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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