I'm hosting a small party this Saturday. I think there will be around 20 people there. I'm keeping it rather small, because I don't want to spend ages to clean up and have neighbours to consider. Any tips on making it an incredible event?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Just a party really. A girl I like is coming, but to be frank I don't know if I'll have the time to entertain her. Looking good in front of her would be nice though.MainDroite said:You need some social lube. Alcohol will do. Refrain from smoking weed until the very end. Grooveshark.com should help you with the music (keep a separate room for dancers).
So is this a genuine party or are you simply trying to find an excuse for bedding one of your guests? If the latter, is it someone specific?
Good luck!
Great. Now I was thinking about the drinks part: I am not a rich man. In fact, I am a student. In Belgium it's quite normal to ask people to bring their own liquor, so I think I might do that. I'm also thinking of preparing some sort of fancy ****tail (actually a mate wants to prepare it, but okay). About the food: I'm thinking tapas. What do you think?PokerStar said:i myself throw parties on a regular so ill throw you a tip or two.
1. Make sure you have people network. introduce your boys to other girls and vice versa. who know you could be playing cupid for some lucky couple.
2. if you are serving drinks make sure your friends and the party goers have a ride home. friends dont let friends drink and drive.
3. be social, talk to everyone. you dont have to be the life of the party, but you bring the party to life.
4. if the girl you like happens to vibe out on you. ask her to help out with the clean up after. (if she really likes you, she will help out)
5. serve food.
6. have fun!
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Dude, I am European, I know what "we" likeMainDroite said:I heard Europeans are not very strong on BYOB. That's an american thing.
One thing you should know though is that there are vast cultural differences between Europeans. It's very hard to put the Italians in the same category as the Dutch for example. I often see people label certain things or behaviours as "European" on this forum, but it is nonsense, because of the big internal differences.MainDroite said:I was waiting for you to confirm this information.![]()
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
One thing you should know though is that there are vast cultural differences between Europeans. It's very hard to put the Italians in the same category as the Dutch for example. I often see people label certain things or behaviours as "European" on this forum, but it is nonsense, because of the big internal differences.MainDroite said:I was waiting for you to confirm this information.![]()