"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
House M.D.
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
penkitten
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if i were ever really sick, i would want him to be my doctor.
MacAvoy
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they are generally total *ssholes.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Michele l'Arcangelo
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and you don't talk about the actors real life or it totally ruins the show.
monaco is 100% correct. it used to be better... but it's still awesome. when something becomes too big... it goes downhill.
but i do have season 1-3 on dvd... they're awesome.
IF i was a mod, i would SO lock this.
I love House. Just got all the seasons on DVD for my birthday.
I'm guessing since we have a new thread on it that maybe a new episode came out tonight? I gotta go find it and watch it.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Frozen_(House_episode)
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
Pssst.... it's easy to find a torrent. I watched one or two episodes of this season, got hooked, but then decided to watch it from the beginning of season one. (I finished just last night.) It's better than watching it on DVR, because the commercials are edited out and it's HDTV (for someone like myself who doesn't have HDTV).Paper Man said:
Introduction of the new characters shows they have run out of ideas. They also focus less on House's pains, but they did conclude that.
Season 4, is a happier House.
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Hey genius, if nobody except you get to watch it, well then it doesn't stay on the air. GOOD JOBMichele said:
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Season 4 is a bit different I'm still trying to decide if its going down hill or not
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it's alright you're on your period.Desert Fox said:
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Yotsuya-san
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Not uncommon for Brit actors to play Americans. Sometimes you can tell because the pronunciation is exagerrated (often based on the perception that all americans drawl). Hugh Laurie was famous before House. He was the hilarious goofy nice guy Bertie Wooster in Jeeves and Wooster, a total 180 degrees from Gregory House. You might see it sometimes rerun on Masterpiece Theater.HandyAndy said:
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.