"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Hottie's cell phone is broken. E-mail or facebook?

Antedeus

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My dear homeez...

Hopefully the title explains it all, but if not, here's a little background: basically, my friend Asen (a Bulgarian who has a certain amount of game and who knows how to party) and I went out to a bar in Hollywood that features arts and crafts. We accompanied a couple girls that we're friends with (one of whom is HAWT, but she's had the same blasted boyfriend since freshman year -_-), met up with some of the girls' other friends there, and had a good time. I hit it off pretty nicely with this one girl who's a stoner chick (I don't smoke, but it's not an issue for me if she does), who's, I'd say, a 7.5 or an 8 looks-wise (NICE bewbs). I really liked her attitude, though; she seemed like a lot more of a free-spirit than the other vindictive militant feminist harpies with emo boyfriends that seem to dominate my school. I got her number, and we took her back to school with us, but she was nodding off to sleep, and I could tell that my female friends kinda found her annoying, so I decided to call it an evening and ask her out later.

Anywho, point is, I followed good ol' DJ protocol, waited a few days, and then just called her about a half-hour ago. I got her answering machine: her phone's broken, but it'll be ready on Wednesday or Thursday. I don't want to wait that long, though. Should I e-mail her? Or perhaps leave her a message over facebook.com? I already have her listed as a friend on that...

Thoughts?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Pimp-sicle

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How do you know her phone's broken?? Did she tell you that when you # closed her or are you just assuming that. In my opinion if she had high interest she would have flat out told you her phone is in the ****ter at the moment and for you to contact her through e-mail or facebook. In any case wait it out a few days, if you don't hear from her then try the other methods of contact. If you still get no response, don't waste your time.




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Her phone broke sometime in the days between when I number-closed her and when I called her. She didn't dupe me, don't worry.
 

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If at possible, if you can run into her without going out of your way, in person, I usually find that is a lot better.

If it absolutely has to be between those two, go with e-mail.
 

Desdinova

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Unless you come into contact with her again before Wed or Thurs, just wait until her phone is fixed. It's only one woman, nothing to put a huge amount of energy toward. Until then, sarge other women.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Antedeus

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Sound advice from both of you, it sounds like, although I doubt I'll see her before those days. She's a sociology major, I'm a poly sci major, and "never the twain shall meet," as they say.:p

Unless you guys recommend me going to the sociology building to "conveniently bump into her," if you will, between now and then? Because that can be arranged; this is a small school.
 
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