Hottie I met Sat. night during our convo. says to me, "So, you wanna f*ck me"? Read.

[legolas]

Sure looks like she wanted to F*CK you!!! LOL

 

[edger]

you failed when you told her she needed a sense of humor.

your game was good at the beginning but the true AFC came out at the end..

Of course, there's a good chance it looked to her like I panicked and was trying to supplicate, and in all actuality, that's the truth, I WAS trying to supplicate, BUT, she didn't know that, because I also knew that if I told her "she needed a sense of humor", that it could also be interpreted by her as if I genuinely meant it, which I did by the way. Who knows what her interpretation of it really was. Sometimes things get overlooked here with regards to AFCism. I would've said the same thing to a chick I wasn't attracted to as well. Would that mean I was trying to supplicate? No, it's just common courtesy.

 

[DJDamage]

See this is what I mean about the seduction community getting too big. It's possible she's hip to the community, but I could be wrong.

I think you might be wrong.

You should of leaned in really close and said to her "If I want to fvck you, you will know".

That line is gold Kontroller gold!! edger needed to have used that line or something comical.

This b1tch who seemed to be in heat (women don't approach strange men in a club and dance for them unless they are mildley interested) and she wanted to know if you were real or not. It could have been the case that you were too slick and too C0cky at the begining and when she called you out and instead of continuing being that, you changed your method, became flustered and pretty much dropped the ball on this one.

It was the case of doing too much in one night. When you have them for even 10 mins and you are in your peak of your game then sometimes its best to bail out and go for the number close. When you drag it to the end of the night there is always a good chance that the girl you were after might see you in a different light.

 

[edger]

Case closed - her walking off is all that mattered. The words she used are just childish foolishness and don't mean anything.

Oh absolutely. That's why I said lean more towards her having asked me(if I wanted to f*ck her) to float her ego(attention wh*ring). I lean more towards "attention wh*re" because she smiled as she walked off, as if it were some kinda joke. A chick who really wants to f*ck you, wouldn't have walked off so abruptly the way she did, looking back with a smile on her face.

 

[edger]

It could have been the case that you were too slick and too C0cky at the begining and when she called you out and instead of continuing being that, you changed your method, became flustered and pretty much dropped the ball on this one.

?? I was consistent the whole time I conversated with her. All I did was tell her she needed a sense of humor which, like I said, can also be interpreted as if I genuinely meant it, and not as supplication. And I did genuinely mean what I said. Read my response to Drum&Bass, I explain my point better.

 

[Jitterbug]

Oh absolutely. That's why I said lean more towards her having asked me(if I wanted to f*ck her) to float her ego(attention wh*ring). I lean more towards "attention wh*re" because she smiled as she walked off, as if it were some kinda joke. A chick who really wants to f*ck you, wouldn't have walked off so abruptly the wa she did, looking back with a smile on her face.

Why wouldn't she?

Let's say she was trying to pick you up (btw girls do it sometimes and they're often very bad at it - not enough practice ). The pick-up failed spectacularly. Of course she's gonna walk away abruptly if she has any self-respect.

Reverse the genders. Would you, in her shoes, hang around after that? Or would you retreat with a smile & preserve your mystery (as well as to protect your ego)?

edger, I'm beginning to think that you actually do get a lot of good vibes from chicks when you're out (inspite of what you said in the other threads) but you dismiss most of them.

You also seem to need a sense of humour more than that broad.

Scaramouche, girls who are incredible dancers tend to intimidate and scare away most guys (who aren't very good dancers themselves). I'm a semi-pro dancer, I know these girls. One of my current dance partners is a pro who's been dancing for 2 decades (since she was a little kid) and when she's not in her usual dance venues with other dancers, she'd have to go ask guys for a dance if she doesn't want to dance by herself or with her friends, because most guys don't have the balls to come ask her.

 

[GitFiddler]

I think she was teasing. If she wanted to fvck you she would have. I would looked her dead in the eye, grabbed her hand and said "Lets Go" in an 'I call your bluff' or 'I dare you' context, ( I have gotten laid by doing this a couple times, AND the girls WERE half joking about it)

Truthfully, I probably would have thrown a neg like "only if it's better than your dancing" and got blown out. Something I need to work on.

 

[Franky Four Fingers]

So, we bullsh*t a little, then I'm like, "Go ahead, show me what you got, dance". So she starts dancing by herself(real f*ckin' sexy too, I mean this b*tch was incredible). So jokingly, I point my finger at her while she's strutting her stuff, and start laughing, hahaha, and she gets pissed, and tells me how rude I am, lol.

You sunk yourself right there when you laughed at her (even though jokingly).

After that the ...

she BLUNTLY say's, "So, you wanna f*ck me"?

... was her halo turning into horns. Payback. One wrong thing said to a women can change everything. It can be a mine field.

I once made an innocent mistake in what I said with a women 20 years ago and I recently spoke to her and she played a "I'd like to to this positive friendly favor for you" (nonsexual) and then ended up not doing the favor.

Women can carry resentment forever. It's crazy.

 

[edger]

***********UPDATE*******

Seen her again this past Saturday at the same club from last week, we crossed paths. I'm like, "Ehhh, look who it is". Then I'm like, "So what brought you here tonight?" I think she said she came to the club because she wanted to dance. Then I grabbed her and made a joke about last week and said, "So, you wanna f*ck me?" So she's like, "that was good right?", referring to when she said it to me last week. So I'm like, "Yeah". Then I'm like, "You should be a comedian". Then I'm like, "I'll talk to you in a bit, let me dance to this song", and I guess kinda blew her off, which actually seemed to piss her off, because I got this look from her, like, "I can't believe you just did that to me". Never seen her again the rest of the night. Lol.

 

[azanon]

Seems like you're still a bit overkill on the "****y" part. ****y doesn't mean rude.

 

[DJDamage]

Don't let them know that you are bothered by them.

Whatever you wanted to achieve you would have gotten it by playing it cool and aloof then being tight and direct.

 

[edger]

Don't let them know that you are bothered by them.

Why, is that how it seemed? That wasn't at all what I was trying to convey to her. My interaction with her was playful. I showed no signs of being annoyed, both in my gestures, facial expressions, or voice tone. Believe me, I know better than to ever show a chick I'm annoyed(big golden rule - indifference). But I can see how you think she might've taken my comment about "how she should be a comedian" might come off as me being annoyed. But like I said, that wasn't my intention at all, and I didn't even think at that point that it might come off as me being annoyed.

 

[Jitterbug]

edger, unless you have no interest in this chick and just want to blow her off, you seem to do all pushing and zero pulling.

 

[edger]

edger, unless you have no interest in this chick and just want to blow her off, you seem to do all pushing and zero pulling.

I am interested in this chick. I just wanted to finish dancing, because it was one of my favorite songs. I told her I'd catch up with her in a bit. But I guess she ended up leaving.

 

[Jitterbug]

That's weird. When my favourite song comes on, I will drag the chick I'm interested in to the dance floor and dance with her. It's a perfect opportunity to share the love.

What you did is yet another push. If you want a chick to catch up with you, you need to give her a reason to.

Even if you just wanted to dance solo then, you should give her your camera and tell her to take a video or some shots of you grooving it, so that she would be right there after you're done with it.

 

[edger]

That's weird. When my favourite song comes on, I will drag the chick I'm interested in to the dance floor and dance with her. It's a perfect opportunity to share the love.

What you did is yet another push. If you want a chick to catch up with you, you need to give her a reason to.

Even if you just wanted to dance solo then, you should give her your camera and tell her to take a video or some shots of you grooving it, so that she would be right there after you're done with it.

It was actually a combination of me trying to act aloof and wanting to dance alone. And I acted aloof because I figured it would strengthen her attraction to me. I still wasn't sure whether this chick wanted to hit the bedroom with me. I was still dwelling on what happened the weekend before. Her interest level from that night last week was questionable. It could go either way. It's one of those tough situations to be able to say for sure whether she really was interested. I'm not totally secure with myself at this point with this chick, so I figured I'd try to intensify my game a little more. But it seems this chick might not be that receptive. I don't even think I played it up bad..I did tell her I would talk to her in a bit, that I wanted to dance to the song. I mean come on, that shouldn't really bother someone that badly..and if anything, most women like a little aloofness, right?

 

[SharpGame]

azanon and Jitterbug are right - too much push, not enough pull. Last week you set up a hoop for her and she complied by dancing for you. But instead of rewarding her good behavior you laugh at her. Then this week you give her another hoop by grabbing her hand and starting a conversation with her. She complies by interacting with your and making light of last week. Again, instead of rewarding her you give her a mild insult ("You should be a comedian") and then blow her off.

Work on "pull". I also like what DJDamage said about being cool and aloof, then tight and direct. Good advice.

 

[decades]

^^Too much push and not enough pull was a great way to describe what you've done here.

 

[Crow]

How big is this place?

 

[Warrior74]

who wants to dance alone in a club? what the hell? I call shenannigans.