Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
All I know is that I want to look my best so that a woman doesn't have to GET OVER my looks in order to realize what she likes about my character/personality. My physique and grooming reflect my self respect, and I expect no less in a woman I end up dating.J. Darko said:Haha, come on, don't you think this is kinda gay?![]()
I'm completely with you there. Plus I hated every one of those styles in that video. I used gel for a while and ending that was one of the best fashion decisions I ever made.TheManOfSteel said:As a white guy there's no way I'm going with anything remotely close to those spiky/anime styles. I keep it short with no product.
Bruce Willis? So you equal badness with baldness? What about this long-haired guy: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w9tNw-KSzVI&feature=fvwrel (actually it´s short in this video, and he´s out of shape, lol)chance said:any guy with long hair in most womens eyes are not a man. it just looks too boyish/feminine. look at bruce willis, would he still look bad ass with hair over his eyes, or down to his chin? just sayin, it's kinda gay when guys put so much effort into their hair. like sometimes i see guys with perfect shiny straight hair combed over their eyes. it disgusts me to see men looking like girls.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
chicks dig hair thats well done up, u wouldnt believe the amount of compliments i get about my hairhandle said:I'm not digging the use of the gel/pomade or whatever. Not my thing, and also as one poster mentioned, chicks don't dig it.