"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Obsidian

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Has anyone here had much success with hotornot? I can barely get any double matches on that damn website. If anyone on here has some good tips on how to make a good hotornot profile, I'd be curious to know what I'm doing wrong. (Or if no one has much success with it, I'll just assume that girls online really are just attention wh0res like I figured...)

And no, I'm not overly concerned about this...I realize that online dating is kinda dumb anyway. It just seems like some people oughta be hooking up from these services 'cause otherwise they wouldn't still exist.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Obsidian

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well irl, i think i'm pretty hot. Over the freakin' internet i'm not so sure.
 

GtarPlayr73

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I have above average looks and my current photo is averaging mid-7's, so i guess that's...above average. I need to post a pic with better lighting and definition. Some rated me a 1 or a 2 which is just rediculous. Only man-haters would do such a thing.

Overall, i don't take it too seriously. Would like to meet chicks on it, but don't expect much at all, seeing that women are often satisfied just knowing they're hot rather than doing anything more about it...which pisses me off. If all they want is attention, why don't they just sit in a window, get men to ogle them (read: give them validation) and then drop the curtains and go on with their lives, smugly satisfied that they're still "hot".
 

aussiegoat55

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Yeah, I've had success. Even met a great chick in person and we're still dating.

I've gotten a several double matches and half matches (from real gorgeous women and average) but like you said, online dating is kind of dumb so I deleted all my double matches and am going to close my account. All I wanted to know is if I was relativley good looking because it's not fair to judge yourself, you're either too generous or too hard on yourself. Now I don't care about it, I don't need to be labeled a number, or I don't need validation. Back to the main point...

The big problem is keeping them interested. Some will just out of the blue stop replying to your messages, this is quite frequent. Most will not agree to meet in public.

For your personal profile. Look at what everyone else has. "I like to travel, party, workout, uh, I like music." It's all the same! So be original. Don't conform to the boring personal intro shyt like career, major in college, age, workout.

Great example of what not to do (Dead beat):

http://meetme.hotornot.com/r/?emid=OYBUASO

Unoriginal (Where he's from, what he enjoys doing, going out with friends, his age):

http://meetme.hotornot.com/r/?emid=OLN8OYB

Someone more original (Read his intro):

http://meetme.hotornot.com/r/?emid=NYALOUG

Original (Original intro, even uses personal characteristics in keywords):

http://meetme.hotornot.com/r/?emid=GEEYAQH

Also you can try to post a real picture of hot guys or hot girls as yourself, hehe, and see what results you get. If you post a hot pic of a girl, then you'll get messages from tons of guys. See what the majority of them say or do, take that into account, and be original from there. Seperate yourself from them, that's what this website is about.

If you post yourself as a hot guy, see if you get more half matches from girls lined up to "Meet You".

I wouldn't give it too much significance, that website. Hope that helped.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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