"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Hot vs Cute

illmatic1005

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whats the difference between getting called cute and hot from a girl?

i hear some girls call other guys cute and the same girls will say a guy is hot..

whats the difference?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Play the Game

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Hot > Cute.

Cute is equivalent of pretty, but Hot implies you would basically fvck that person given a chance.
You have more sex appeal if a girl calls you hot.
 

KossHP

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Play the Game said:
Hot > Cute.

Cute is equivalent of pretty, but Hot implies you would basically fvck that person given a chance.
You have more sex appeal if a girl calls you hot.
Yea basically. Hot is definately better than cute, but cute can mean the same as hot depending on the girl/location. Some girls say a guy is cute so that they don't come off looking too sexually interested or whatever. Cute is ambiguous and can mean a couple of different things, hot isn't though. Basically take into consideration the context it's said in, and you should be able to figure out what the girl means.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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One's emotional, the other's physical.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I.A.F.Y.B.

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My girlfriend calls me cute, hot and or sexy. To me its all the same.
 

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Don't forget that hot may just be the word of the day. Forgive me for this but Paris Hilton is known for saying "Thats hot." I'm sure many girl imitate her style of speaking.

All in all it what matters most is how it was said, not what was said.
 

I.A.F.Y.B.

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Maxtro said:
Don't forget that hot may just be the word of the day. Forgive me for this but Paris Hilton is known for saying "Thats hot." I'm sure many girl imitate her style of speaking.

All in all it what matters most is how it was said, not what was said.
Yes, in certin situations it could be that way.

Or as the old sayin... Its now what you say. Its how you say it.
 

backbreaker

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does it really matter? as long as you aren't "ugly" you have passed the phsysical attraction test.

I get called "handsome" alot, but very rarely "hot".. do you honestly think I give a ****? By the end of the night I'm still fvcking anyway.. it's not going to be any less of a fvck because I'm "handsome" and not "hot".. she's not going to put less in a ******* or anything
 

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thing is I think its subjective in which girls call you HOT or CUTE....i've been called both by different girls...so I really wouldn't know which is better than the other I guess it's just how they say it...
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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