"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Hot POF Serial Dater with past STDS - Should I still bang?

Reyaj

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Yeah this girl is already inviting me over and I know I have a good chance of getting some. Physically I'm very attracted to her but she is an avid online dater so I know she has mileage... She is 31 years of age.

We were talking on the phone the other day and I flat out asked if if she ever was pregnant and if she ever had any STDs. She said yes to both... She didn't want to talk about the pregnancy thing because it hurts her to much (assuming she had an abortion). Regarding STDs she said she had chlamydia in the past and also HPV. She said it was a while ago and no longer has any. I asked her about herpes and she said she has oral herpes but not genital herpes.

Anyway she seems very sexual as she's already texted me some risque pics... I always have this fantasy of banging a slvt but I often get paranoid about STDs..

Again this girl is attractive and someone I'd like to bang the hell out of for sport. Would you do it guys? Be honest...
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Yeah this girl is already inviting me over and I know I have a good chance of getting some. Physically I'm very attracted to her but she is an avid online dater so I know she has mileage... She is 31 years of age.

We were talking on the phone the other day and I flat out asked if if she ever was pregnant and if she ever had any STDs. She said yes to both... She didn't want to talk about the pregnancy thing because it hurts her to much (assuming she had an abortion). Regarding STDs she said she had chlamydia in the past and also HPV. She said it was a while ago and no longer has any. I asked her about herpes and she said she has oral herpes but not genital herpes.

Anyway she seems very sexual as she's already texted me some risque pics... I always have this fantasy of banging a slvt but I often get paranoid about STDs..

Again this girl is attractive and someone I'd like to bang the hell out of for sport. Would you do it guys? Be honest...
Are you serious or do you have a screw loose or something?
 

Billtx49

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Yeah this girl is already inviting me over and I know I have a good chance of getting some. Physically I'm very attracted to her but she is an avid online dater so I know she has mileage... She is 31 years of age.

We were talking on the phone the other day and I flat out asked if if she ever was pregnant and if she ever had any STDs. She said yes to both... She didn't want to talk about the pregnancy thing because it hurts her to much (assuming she had an abortion). Regarding STDs she said she had chlamydia in the past and also HPV. She said it was a while ago and no longer has any. I asked her about herpes and she said she has oral herpes but not genital herpes.

Anyway she seems very sexual as she's already texted me some risque pics... I always have this fantasy of banging a slvt but I often get paranoid about STDs..

Again this girl is attractive and someone I'd like to bang the hell out of for sport. Would you do it guys? Be honest...
Last century when HIV/AIDS really appeared, many singles required recent Dr. tests be viewed before sex happened. She has a checkered past and you don't know her present..
Be Selective, or trouble will select You…
 

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Never in a million years bro. I once had a hb9 rent a suite for us to fck.... when I arrived she was wearing knee highs and waving a pair of handcuffs.... I brought out the rubbers and was about to go to town. She says ugh... don’t wear those... I want to feel you. I said listen I don’t have anything and she responded “ cool”.... I asked umm do you??? Her response was I think I’m good???? I bolted.... protect your health.
 

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Practice safe sex man.

Let me be upfront and real with you for a second ok. Most adults who've been sexually active most of their lives have probably gotten an STD at some point. If you're fvcking regularly then chances are you'll catch something at some point even using protection. There's no need to freak out or treat her like **** for that, she did tell you which is surprising to me as Chlamydia is the most common STD here in my home state of CA and it's easily treated. Everyone acting crazy because she contracted it comes across as people who are not very sexually active. She was honest which is good.

As far as HPV, I have no idea off the top of my head but you might want to do some research into that one. Remember any time you choose to have sex PERIOD you run the risk of catching stuff. She could appear to be the most innocent girl with the best values you've seen in a long time and guess what? She could be carrying something.

Be smart, practice safe sex and most importantly LIVE YOUR LIFE.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Practice safe sex man.

Let me be upfront and real with you for a second ok. Most adults who've been sexually active most of their lives have probably gotten an STD at some point. If you're fvcking regularly then chances are you'll catch something at some point even using protection. There's no need to freak out or treat her like **** for that, she did tell you which is surprising to me as Chlamydia is the most common STD here in my home state of CA and it's easily treated. Everyone acting crazy because she contracted it comes across as people who are not very sexually active. She was honest which is good.

As far as HPV, I have no idea off the top of my head but you might want to do some research into that one. Remember any time you choose to have sex PERIOD you run the risk of catching stuff. She could appear to be the most innocent girl with the best values you've seen in a long time and guess what? She could be carrying something.

Be smart, practice safe sex and most importantly LIVE YOUR LIFE.
Can't protect from HPV. Though, all but two variations the body would cure on it's own. I caught Molluscum Contagiosum from a b itch once. She later told me she thinks she may have da herp, but never disclosed. Turned out it wasn't da herp, but it was a scary situation for me. After that, I've become super conservative with ladies. I even told her, you knew you had da herp and didn't tell me? If this is da herp, I will be pressing charges.

No person, male or female, deserves to have an incurable disease WHEN the other person knows about it; but selects not to tell you. NO ONE.

 

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At 45, I met a great 40-year old woman who had less partners than you could count on a single hand. I married her.

Just before we got serious, I was dating a 41-year old woman who was attractive marriage potential. She had only one partner and had never even had a boyfriend.

My point is, if you take some time to look, you can find attractive women with low partner counts with zero risk of disease.

Having lived in the AIDS crisis in the early nineties, where there were only 3 AIDS drugs, I would never sleep a risky gal.
 

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Why would you ask a random girl if she has an STD? Assume she does and strap up. You should always be wearing condoms regardless. Have that convo when things get a lil more serious.
 

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Been here since 02 asking dumb 19 member questions.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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JayAce

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One night of fun is not worth catching an STD. C’mon man. Sometimes I feel like I’m losing brain cells reading some stuff on here.
 

Cloudtopsun2100

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Being 41 with her 31, I'm guessing you might be thinking this is a maybe one of your last chances to meet some crazy and young broad and go at it like rabbits before you slip into the 45+ norcal pickup twilight zone. Thats the only reason I can think of that you would be willing to risk your health to get a notch.

Apparently you are in Northern Cali,it must be a tough market perhaps you can just sit tight and stack cash and then go off to Las Vegas/Europe/Montreal/Wherever floats your boat to have fun
 

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Hi Raj,
HPV can be inoculated against...Our School Girls get It gratis from the taxpayer
takes a series of injections and immunity takes a good while...Until you have an all clear from your Quack,don't engage in unprotected sex and just don't go muff diving at all...read up about HPV and Oral Sex...Take Care,Scarra.
 

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I ended up not doing this... and actually had another girl who had two kids from different dads give me the scare as well..

The first girl invited me over to their place to meet the first time... I had a good shot of hitting both.

Since I'm in a relationship picking up an STD from someone and passing it to my girl is my worst fear. I realize you can't always judge a book by its cover but I guess sensing promiscuity can be a risk mitigator.

The paradox here is I am very attracted to hot girls are somewhat promiscuous. These type of girls would make ideal side pieces.

I must be insane?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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pics plz
 

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if she ever was pregnant and if she ever had any STDs. She said yes to both... She didn't want to talk about the pregnancy thing because it hurts her to much (assuming she had an abortion). Regarding STDs she said she had chlamydia in the past and also HPV. She said it was a while ago and no longer has any. I asked her about herpes and she said she has oral herpes but not genital herpes.
No. :(

And...

Anyway she seems very sexual as she's already texted me some risque pics... I always have this fantasy of banging a slvt but I often get paranoid about STDs..
All Women are "sluts" and are very kinky however you need to be the Man that brings that side out of them. Find another girl or else you might really regret this.
 

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Long-term health is more important than few orgasms with a hot woman. Her honesty is not worth risking your health. I sure won't.
 

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Yeah this girl is already inviting me over and I know I have a good chance of getting some. Physically I'm very attracted to her but she is an avid online dater so I know she has mileage... She is 31 years of age.

We were talking on the phone the other day and I flat out asked if if she ever was pregnant and if she ever had any STDs. She said yes to both... She didn't want to talk about the pregnancy thing because it hurts her to much (assuming she had an abortion). Regarding STDs she said she had chlamydia in the past and also HPV. She said it was a while ago and no longer has any. I asked her about herpes and she said she has oral herpes but not genital herpes.

Anyway she seems very sexual as she's already texted me some risque pics... I always have this fantasy of banging a slvt but I often get paranoid about STDs..

Again this girl is attractive and someone I'd like to bang the hell out of for sport. Would you do it guys? Be honest...
With girls like this, you can save time by asking them which STDs they don't have. Anyway, if you bang make sure you wear a condom and be careful where you put your mouth.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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