"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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animal crackers

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Alright, I put a picture up on HotorNot.com just to see what would happen. I got a high rating, but it's wierd.

If any of you guys have done this and know about it let me know.

The thing is there are columbs for each of the numbers where people rate you. The 5 column in mine is the HIGHEST one, and I even have a couple 4s and a couple less.

I've only had 56 votes so far, but it seems messed up.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Swede54

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i think my 5 column is the highest too, but it has some **** to do with averaging all the scores, so im like a 7.9. But that doesnt mean most people rated me that.
 

Thraxeh

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u have to realise whos acctully voting on these sites.

you think all these hot girls will be sitting at there computer voting on hot or not ?
 

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If you're concerned with what complete strangers think of your face than this site has done absolutely nothing for you.

"You can act like a man *smack* What's the matter with you!" _ Godfather
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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ghostin

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I go through that site and rate everyone a "1" just to lower their self esteem :p
 

animal crackers

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Interpol- That makes sense. There's a lot of people who just go through and press 5 or 10 for everyone.



thefonz- Where else could I get an unbiased reaction to how I look?
 

BrotherAP

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I don't know about this site, Animal Crackers, my average right now is like a 3.5 (if I average it myself, as I only have 5 votes). Damn, I must be one ugly mutha :crackup: Good thing my ego is bulletproof, or we'd have one devastated pile of a man here!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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diceman

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Thats cheating Mindovermatter!

Anyone who posts a pick of themselves with even the slightest outline of a six-pack automatically gets 9's & 10's.

They're not judging your face, it's your body. You knew this & you only posted that to feed your presious ego.

Post a close up of your face, then see how high you get.
(i'm a 8.0 BTW)
 

Fatality

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that's true

just show a little skin

as long as you aren't carrying too much fat you will get a high rating
 

MindOverMatter

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Originally posted by diceman
Thats cheating Mindovermatter!

Anyone who posts a pick of themselves with even the slightest outline of a six-pack automatically gets 9's & 10's.

They're not judging your face, it's your body. You knew this & you only posted that to feed your presious ego.

Post a close up of your face, then see how high you get.
(i'm a 8.0 BTW)
actually I posted that pic to win a bet with a dude from my gym , but over time, it did feed the ego a bit I guess. I've had a photo with clothes on there before ( this one http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v632/Mind_Over_Matter/mind02.jpg ), and it was at 9.7 or so before I took it down after 140 votes.

Anyway, how is it cheating lol? You shouldn't take hot or not so seriously bro. I work hard for my body, and it's just as big of an asset as my face (also, slight outline, are you joking me?). Besides, the website is called HOT OR NOT, not rate my face lol.
 

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MoM, I gave you a 10. ;)

props to what you do and keep up the hard work. Im sure its payin off
 

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Originally posted by animal crackers

thefonz- Where else could I get an unbiased reaction to how I look?
I;ve read some of you're posts and you have some game....by looking at these scale ratings you compare yourself to other people on the site to determine where you stand physically, that creates jealousy and an element of self-doubt. We are all luminous beings, not balls of matter - to quote master yoda
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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