You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
It doesn't have to be with the face, name often match with personality.Wyldfire said:Let's see how good you guys are in matching a woman's name with her face.
Wyldfire said:You guys are too much, lol. One of the most beautiful women I've ever known had an old lady name. One of the most unattractive women I've ever known had a name commonly used by strippers, lol.
Let's see how good you guys are in matching a woman's name with her face.
My picture is in my profile (click on my name).
What is my name out of this list:
The list inclues: My 3 grandmothers (My father was adopted, so I include his birth mother and adopted mother's names), my mother, my 3 sisters, my two daughters and my niece. See who can guess which names are me, my 3 grandmothers, my mother, my sisters, my daughters and my niece. You can also list a couple of words about what kind of person you think each were or are and I'll tell you how close you are. The names are all listed in alphabetical order so as not to give any clues.
Aimee
Bailey
Dorothea
Julie
Marcia
Mary
Meagan
Myrtle
Nola
Norma
Shannon
dude from my experience, Tiffany is the standard UG name. all the Tiffany's ive ever seen have been fat and uglyCall_Me_Daddy said:I can see all of those being names for UGs, and I have. Except maybe Tiffany.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
The Shannon on the list is definitely fiesty and hardheaded. The rest is off.DJDamage said:It doesn't have to be with the face, name often match with personality.
I am guessing your name is Shannon because every shannon I met or knew was a fiesty hardheaded trouble maker who cannot admit being wrong.
Or it could be Julie since girls by the name of Julie tend to have a superiority complex.
You guys are supposed to guess which names are for which people...not just guess which name is mine.Raikojo17 said:im guessin either Shannon or meagan
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
omg that is so ****in trueDJDamage said:It doesn't have to be with the face, name often match with personality.
I am guessing your name is Shannon because every shannon I met or knew was a fiesty hardheaded trouble maker who cannot admit being wrong.
Or it could be Julie since girls by the name of Julie tend to have a superiority complex.
Stop trying to hijack the thread you attention *****, go make your own damn thread. That has nothing to do with this thread.Wyldfire said:C'mon guys...go through the whole list of names and post the impression you get from the name and whether you think it is a grandmother, mother, sister, daughter, niece or me.
Um...hijacking a thread is when you start a fight or don't post about the topic, which is female names.PeterNorthisawesome said:Stop trying to hijack the thread you attention *****, go make your own damn thread. That has nothing to do with this thread.
Another Ugly chick name that guys should avoid at all costs:
- Wyldfire
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.