I think the main problem lies in the fact that she looks almost exactly like a former oneitis of mine (only less cute and more hot). Anyone else been in this situation? I told myself to just concentrate on school and just appreciate the attention but everytime she gives me one of those looks, I start thinking "Why not?" She has been checking me out for over a year now (I'm surprise her interest was this long considering the fact that I don't consider myself drop dead gorgeous). What would you do?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Hot Girl Shows Interest But I'm Too Insecure To Go For It!
- Thread starter Juan_Man
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Pappadapolis
Don Juan
Just do it. There really is nothing else except regret.
IamtheAlphamale
Master Don Juan
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goto the mall and bring a friend and make that friend **** talk you until you start getting lots of rejections. If you do this you will have a chance with her otherwise when you start twitching when you ask her out you will lose her.
I don't consider myself drop dead gorgeous either, but boy is it fun to chase the good looking ones. Do something about it.
If you're REALLY hung up on her, find one flaw about her. It's proof she isn't this perfect creature. THEN do something about it.
If you're REALLY hung up on her, find one flaw about her. It's proof she isn't this perfect creature. THEN do something about it.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I'm not that hung-up on her and I'm not sure if out personalities match. She's hardworking but I get the vibe that she thinks making money is everything, which is a philosophy that I'm not all about. But then again, I haven't really talked to her one-on-one but only through a group of people. I do, sometimes, feel like I'm blowing an opportunity but maybe it's only because of how she looks. Physical attraction is a must (I've dated women I wasn't physically attracted to and it just doesn't work) but I know looks aren't the be all, end all.
dynamicallyidle
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It's all about mentality. Don't you hate the regret of not having gone for it and asking yourself "What if" more than any rejection could hurt?
PigAdlemPimp
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You are a wuss dude, if you know this hot babe likes you it should be very easy to ask her out, pull your head in and fvck the b!tch.
How can it be that she is hotter than your ex girlfreind who is cuter than her, this doesn't make any sence, hot and cute are the same thing. :yes:
How can it be that she is hotter than your ex girlfreind who is cuter than her, this doesn't make any sence, hot and cute are the same thing. :yes: