"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Hot date, but I'm filled with RAGE

Bonhomme

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Been a while, DJs.

Here's what's up:

Today I'm supposed to be going out with a real cool gal, one who has it all: terrific chemistry, bright, really cute, affectionate, fun. I should be totally psyched, BUT...

I had a day from hell. Had a court case (an appeal from a lousy half-assed judgment I got), and really got it up the ass. It was not even really an appeal -- the most ridiculous travesty of justice I'd ever witnessed, and essentially amounted to another sick-ass judge rubber-stamping the original extremely biased hearing, and acting in cahoots with an ex-tenant to help her rip me off. Even admitting the "tenant got off lucky." Then, to top it off, putting on a big act "admonishing" the deadbeat to quickly pay the paltry sum I was "awarded," which was about half what I was rightfully owed.

Anyway, I'm so full of rage that I've not been able to sleep. The only thing I want to do is pound on things. Not the frame of mind one wants to be in for a date with a gal I really like, and who seems quite crazy about me.

So what's to be done? It's 5am here, and I'm still wired with rage. The best thing I can think to do is eat a meal that will kick my usually very effiecient serotonin production into high gear, and crash until the afternoon. Or else be "sick" and cancel. In any case, I'm absolutely unable to contain the pissed-off feeling. Punching the bag, drumming, burning the judgment (after photocopying it -- I'll need it for the next appeal) -- none of that worked. BLEAAARGGHH!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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JustDoItAlways

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Remember, chicks like guys that can handle life's little set-backs.

Don't go on the date if you are not in control of yourself.

But better yet, look at it as an opportunity. Work out, cool down, make the date, tell her the story and show her how you can handle sh1t like this.

Chicks like a guy that has his sh1t together and can handle stressful situations without losing control.

But you also have to be a man that will not just let it slide and forget being screwed over. Chicks hate this. You should come across as a guy who will look for opportunities in the future to get back from this loser tenant what he is owed. Doesn't have to be in the courtroom. I'm sure you'll cross paths again.
 
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You r a property owner, I take it? You should expect things like this. It is normal. They probably will never pay you what is owed. Expect this!

This should have nothing to do with your other goals in life - you have to be a multi-tasker. Never carry your business into personal affairs - do not tell her your troubles - keep them to yourself and be your jolly self. Nothing positive will come from your anger if you share it with a woman you barely know.

Think of future possibilities and not current circumstances, if you don't want to negatively affect your chances of keeping company with someone that may strengthen you as a man and bring a refreshing breath of air to your attitude! A good woman can bring comfort to a man in troubled times. This is part of a woman's nature (genetic make up), to console and nurture. She may be exactly what you need in this time of anger. Don't blow it!
 

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Good advice, guys.

Turns out all the venting and creative outlet of aggression worked, and my rage drained off and simmered to a more appropriate determination to get as much justice as I can (criminal charges are to be filed for the stuff the deadbeat stole ), and -- more importantly -- avoid this kind of thing in the future.

As for the date, we rescheduled anyway. Things are still looking cool with this gal, and I have other good prospects as well.

Thanks for the good advice.
 

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oh I thought you were talking about the RAGE from the movie 28 Days Later
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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