"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Hot Chick, BIG ticket to BIG game too much too soon?

Dash Riprock

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I got the number of this hot chick (early 30's) at my gym that I've talked to off and on for a while now. We chatted, I teased her a bit, cracked a few jokes, and then said I wanted to get her number so we could have coffee. I got it and then immediately split (happened this Wednesday). I was going to call her on Sunday night to say "hey" and set something up for a mid-week drink BUT...

I also landed (2) awesome seats to the Colorado Rockies vs. New York Yankees ($130 worth) here in Denver for next week and really want to take her. She's been in the states for a few years and is from Croatia--my guess is she's never been to a major event like that before. I also know her ex-boyfriend and he's definitely not the sporto type.

Is this too much too soon because we haven't even had a "real" get-to-know-each-other-type date yet

OR

Would this be something that would be super cool because it's unusual and has all the "fun" elements like people, buzz, noise, excitement, drama (the game), etc. I would also not tell her exactly what we're doing, but tell her how to dress, when to be ready, etc., just to toy with her a bit

DJ thoughts please.

Dash Riprock
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Take her. Call her up, let her know you got tickets a few weeks ago and one of your friends bailed. If she bails too, then go ahead and really invite one of your friends.
 

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Take her BUT..........

Don't try too hard to impress her at the game.. Infact, let her try to impress you.. You've already DHV by bringing her to this game. Don't mention ticket costs.. And FORCE HER to Qualify herself to you once you are at the game.. it's a great time to build LOTS of comfort..

Use the old but time tested "I think you're sexy but I want to know what there is to you beyond your looks. Tell me something interesting about yourself"

Remember, you're the prize, the king, act like one.
 

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Good call, Charm. I like it. I pretty much can't stand "standard" dates anyway--good oppt'y to sharpen the DJ skills, etc. as we'll be together for at least 4-5 hours. PLUS, I'll be pretty engrossed in the game.

Any other DJ thoughts appreciated.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Dash Riprock

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UPDATE:

I called, chatted, hit her with some C&F, told her I had tickets to *something* and wanted her to join me. She said "sure."

Funny thing is this girl is kind of my opposite; into saving the world, a Taosit, always bikes, no car. I'm more the weightlifting, NFL, UFC-watching, risk-taking (business and $$) kind of dude. Should be interesting. If opposites do attract we’ll be locked at the hips.

I was in a LTR, took a few months off, and now am out again. Trying to get the "game" back and sharpen up after a year or so off.

Is there a "first date" short list on this site somewhere? Something like Top 7 Things to Remember When on a First Date with a Hot Chick...or am I going to have to go from memory?

Any links appreciated.

DJ's are ALWAYS trying to get better at what they do...ALWAYS.
 

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probably would be better to do coffee first, and if that goes well then go to the game. when is the game; is there not enough time to do both?
 

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Obsidian,

Game is this Wednesday. Yeah, 95% of the time coffee/drinks first would be great but this is a HUGE event here in Colorado so it happening Wednesday night, only. I really wanted to take her because it's going to be a very wild, fun, exciting time and a lot of our conversation can revolve around the game, the stadium, etc. Almost more of an un-date. Her ex-husband is a real granola, hippie, Tao-like guy--and I'm more well, my sports favorites are Brain Urlacher, Ken Shamrock, and Chuck Liddel. So I'm going to be night and day compared to what she had.

It's kind of like going long on 1st and 10; we'll find out how compatible we are right away. Either way we'll have fun--plus she's secondary next to the actually game. [GO ROCKIES!]

I do need to brush up a bit on first date game -- any good links/pages you'd recommend?
 

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First date game is simple. Use regular kino action, touch on the knee, brush of her hair...


Lean in to smell her and be bold about it. Tell her you like her choice of perfume. Ask her about her goals, interests, challenges, wishes, etc. Keep things light and fun, tell stories, etc.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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