"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Hot Bartender Gone Cold!
- Thread starter SanDog11
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
But then again, so do all bartender women. I don't understand why guys keep insisting on trying to date them.
Kailex
Master Don Juan
Don't you dare text back.SanDog11 said:
Leave that alone, she's just seeking attention. Seriously, if I were you, I wouldn't go alone at all to that place.
She's seeking attention and possibly a customer with some added tips into the equation. Like you said, she was working and probably had some time to kill to text and you were the victim of choice. Women that do this know they have a high probability of pulling someone back into the fold even after a week.
You are way too invested into her. You should be making plans with other women. You listed a lot of good things going on for you, why are you so focused on this ONE "woman" instead of so many better options?
And what do you mean by "do my thing"? What thing?
I got drunk and did..it went like this:
Me: no worries you're playing the push/pull, hot/cold strategy. ha!
Her: what? no! i'm not playing games at all
Her: lol, no, silly (bla blah something like this)
Me: its all good because it gives me a chance to see through your games.
Her: SMH (shaking my head) no games, Aaron just not sure if we're compatable.
Her: hope you are doing well
Me: you took the words right out of my mouth.
Yes I shouldn't of texted back but now i'm over it and her number is deleted.
Not sure but I think it's because I thought we had a connection and it's been the first girl I felt that with in 1 year since me and my ex of 3 years split. I now know I was wrong and see her for what she really is.
I'm meeting this blonde nurse for a drink tomorrow so we'll see how that goes. I didn't pick her up, rather theres a girl at work that thinks we'd hit it off and set me up.
Kailex
Master Don Juan
Sometimes you need an exchange like that to realize what should have already been obvious to you. Now you can waltz into that place just fine and know where you stand. Don't be afraid to meet any women or take any women there either.
I just see female bartenders (even now) as buddies or co-workers.
I saw way too much working as one that they are pretty much at the bottom of my bang-list.
Remember, not only is she paid to make you feel "special" but you are paying her too, not only with tips, but with attention. Chalk it up to the game and call it a lesson learned.
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.