Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Hot Bartender Gone Cold!
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
But then again, so do all bartender women. I don't understand why guys keep insisting on trying to date them.
Kailex
Master Don Juan
Don't you dare text back.SanDog11 said:
Leave that alone, she's just seeking attention. Seriously, if I were you, I wouldn't go alone at all to that place.
She's seeking attention and possibly a customer with some added tips into the equation. Like you said, she was working and probably had some time to kill to text and you were the victim of choice. Women that do this know they have a high probability of pulling someone back into the fold even after a week.
You are way too invested into her. You should be making plans with other women. You listed a lot of good things going on for you, why are you so focused on this ONE "woman" instead of so many better options?
And what do you mean by "do my thing"? What thing?
I got drunk and did..it went like this:
Me: no worries you're playing the push/pull, hot/cold strategy. ha!
Her: what? no! i'm not playing games at all
Her: lol, no, silly (bla blah something like this)
Me: its all good because it gives me a chance to see through your games.
Her: SMH (shaking my head) no games, Aaron just not sure if we're compatable.
Her: hope you are doing well
Me: you took the words right out of my mouth.
Yes I shouldn't of texted back but now i'm over it and her number is deleted.
Not sure but I think it's because I thought we had a connection and it's been the first girl I felt that with in 1 year since me and my ex of 3 years split. I now know I was wrong and see her for what she really is.
I'm meeting this blonde nurse for a drink tomorrow so we'll see how that goes. I didn't pick her up, rather theres a girl at work that thinks we'd hit it off and set me up.
Kailex
Master Don Juan
Sometimes you need an exchange like that to realize what should have already been obvious to you. Now you can waltz into that place just fine and know where you stand. Don't be afraid to meet any women or take any women there either.
I just see female bartenders (even now) as buddies or co-workers.
I saw way too much working as one that they are pretty much at the bottom of my bang-list.
Remember, not only is she paid to make you feel "special" but you are paying her too, not only with tips, but with attention. Chalk it up to the game and call it a lesson learned.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.