SO I started talking to this girl a few weeks ago. I teased her a lot and she was connecting good with me. I could tell she was interested in me. I saw her a a few of my football games we had a lot of fun. SO last week of homecoming I was at the dance, I'm not going to lie I'm a pretty good dancer, I danced with her a few times and at the last song we hooked up and left the dance holding hands.
Monday I saw her a few times, one of the times it was awkward. So I decided I wanted to show her it wasn't just a random hookup so I after school I grabbed her hands took her away from her friends, I felt really decisive she just told her friends bye and I lead her to a kinda personal spot, I told her "i had a lot of fun at the dance"
her" blah blah, then I kissed her, This was done really smooth and it was not awkward. but after the kiss I did not know what to do so I put my arm around her and started walking, I held her hand until I had to go the other direction. This walk just like the one at the dance had a lot of tension after the kiss, I didn't know what to do so I dissolved the tension but tension/ chemistry is good right? Whats suppose to happen after you kiss the girl?.... Was it suppose to be a little awkward after I kissed her because thats how all my hookups have beeen?....
SO the next day I walked with her but I kept getting really nervous about seeing her I became an awkward friend like when I started off approaching girls for the first time. For some reason I just drew blanks and I like forgot how to tease her?!? This was in one interaction on Tuesday, I literally felt her attraction level in me dropping... I decided I needed to see were this was going. I kept getting nervous because I haven't had a relationship in a few years and I have only had hookups. I wasn't sure if kissing a girl twice meant we were going out or if I had to ask her out or what?... What should I do next time?
Today I decided I would ask her out and that if I had completely killed it with her the past couple of days then it was fine I have many options. So I tryed leading her again ,I felt her resist my kino. I knew what her answer to going be...I asked her if she wanted to go to the game together.... It was the usual "blah, blah, blah" no type of answer. I played it off good kept it from turning really awkward. Actually as soon as she said that. I felt happy. I never asked a girl out directly like that. In the past I have never had to be direct in expressing to a girl that I like her other than kissing. Weight was lifted from my shoulder and then I started acting normal again. I talked with her all the way to English. I felt her attraction level rising again we both paused and almost gave each other hugs. her voice and the look in her eyes returned to the the girl that had liked me a few days before. I know that a few days of normal me again the only thing keeping us from making out will be her "Blah blah blah" from today that was caused by me the 2 days before. So what if she starts showing me IOI's again what do I do?
...Even right before and after this girl and I hooked up I was still keeping my options open, so i didnt have to worry about the oneits. But I am afraid this will happen to me again, me acting like a girl and awkward person when somebody hooks up with me. I get really nervous. Guys please help me out! Any advice, feedback, or responses to my questions would be awsome.
Monday I saw her a few times, one of the times it was awkward. So I decided I wanted to show her it wasn't just a random hookup so I after school I grabbed her hands took her away from her friends, I felt really decisive she just told her friends bye and I lead her to a kinda personal spot, I told her "i had a lot of fun at the dance"
her" blah blah, then I kissed her, This was done really smooth and it was not awkward. but after the kiss I did not know what to do so I put my arm around her and started walking, I held her hand until I had to go the other direction. This walk just like the one at the dance had a lot of tension after the kiss, I didn't know what to do so I dissolved the tension but tension/ chemistry is good right? Whats suppose to happen after you kiss the girl?.... Was it suppose to be a little awkward after I kissed her because thats how all my hookups have beeen?....
SO the next day I walked with her but I kept getting really nervous about seeing her I became an awkward friend like when I started off approaching girls for the first time. For some reason I just drew blanks and I like forgot how to tease her?!? This was in one interaction on Tuesday, I literally felt her attraction level in me dropping... I decided I needed to see were this was going. I kept getting nervous because I haven't had a relationship in a few years and I have only had hookups. I wasn't sure if kissing a girl twice meant we were going out or if I had to ask her out or what?... What should I do next time?
Today I decided I would ask her out and that if I had completely killed it with her the past couple of days then it was fine I have many options. So I tryed leading her again ,I felt her resist my kino. I knew what her answer to going be...I asked her if she wanted to go to the game together.... It was the usual "blah, blah, blah" no type of answer. I played it off good kept it from turning really awkward. Actually as soon as she said that. I felt happy. I never asked a girl out directly like that. In the past I have never had to be direct in expressing to a girl that I like her other than kissing. Weight was lifted from my shoulder and then I started acting normal again. I talked with her all the way to English. I felt her attraction level rising again we both paused and almost gave each other hugs. her voice and the look in her eyes returned to the the girl that had liked me a few days before. I know that a few days of normal me again the only thing keeping us from making out will be her "Blah blah blah" from today that was caused by me the 2 days before. So what if she starts showing me IOI's again what do I do?
...Even right before and after this girl and I hooked up I was still keeping my options open, so i didnt have to worry about the oneits. But I am afraid this will happen to me again, me acting like a girl and awkward person when somebody hooks up with me. I get really nervous. Guys please help me out! Any advice, feedback, or responses to my questions would be awsome.