"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Hook up Obstacle

superwoman

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Hey guys,

There is girl I met at my social circle in college. Basically we hit off pretty well except that there is a slight challenge. We were chatting at a party and she's basically like "ok I like you but your housemate and I had history last year and it'll be weird and awkward if we hook up." Basically, the guy promised they will get back together this year but broke her heart. She dislikes him right now.

I basically played cool and said I understand.

I like my housemate because he's a chill guy and cool to me. But I also want to hook up, or just have a One night stand.

So what do I do now?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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theunflushables

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@superwoman you're kind of effed in this situation, at least in a long term type thing. Couple options A. Hit and quit it and hope the house mate doesn't find out and get pissed. B. Get the go ahead from your house mate first (which in turn while saving potential house troubles, kind of looks like supplication.) or C. Move on.

Personally, I choose C.

@Serialized3 No need to be a d1ck.
 

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theunflushables said:
@superwoman you're kind of effed in this situation, at least in a long term type thing. Couple options A. Hit and quit it and hope the house mate doesn't find out and get pissed. B. Get the go ahead from your house mate first (which in turn while saving potential house troubles, kind of looks like supplication.) or C. Move on.

Personally, I choose C.

@Serialized3 No need to be a d1ck.

Thanks. Would he get pissed if he was suppose to be the person that "broke" her heart? (I don't know the details well because I didn't feel like pressing on it).

Yea option C is good but I promise myself not to fu*k up things anymore because lots of opportunities just flew by in my life.

If I go with B, how should I approach him? I mean this is really awkward and I don't want to make a wrong move because I'm new to the house.

Thanks theunflushables.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Kailex

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superwoman said:
If I go with B, how should I approach him? I mean this is really awkward and I don't want to make a wrong move because I'm new to the house.

Thanks theunflushables.
Do NOT go with B.
He's a housemate, nothing good can come of this.
 

Tkman

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superwoman said:
We were chatting at a party and she's basically like "ok I like you but your housemate and I had history last year and it'll be weird and awkward if we hook up." Basically, the guy promised they will get back together this year but broke her heart. She dislikes him right now.

So what do I do now?
Ummmm ... she doesn't dislike him. She doesn't want to hit it off with you because she waiting for him to make his move.
 
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