"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Hook up Obstacle

superwoman

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Hey guys,

There is girl I met at my social circle in college. Basically we hit off pretty well except that there is a slight challenge. We were chatting at a party and she's basically like "ok I like you but your housemate and I had history last year and it'll be weird and awkward if we hook up." Basically, the guy promised they will get back together this year but broke her heart. She dislikes him right now.

I basically played cool and said I understand.

I like my housemate because he's a chill guy and cool to me. But I also want to hook up, or just have a One night stand.

So what do I do now?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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theunflushables

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@superwoman you're kind of effed in this situation, at least in a long term type thing. Couple options A. Hit and quit it and hope the house mate doesn't find out and get pissed. B. Get the go ahead from your house mate first (which in turn while saving potential house troubles, kind of looks like supplication.) or C. Move on.

Personally, I choose C.

@Serialized3 No need to be a d1ck.
 

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theunflushables said:
@superwoman you're kind of effed in this situation, at least in a long term type thing. Couple options A. Hit and quit it and hope the house mate doesn't find out and get pissed. B. Get the go ahead from your house mate first (which in turn while saving potential house troubles, kind of looks like supplication.) or C. Move on.

Personally, I choose C.

@Serialized3 No need to be a d1ck.

Thanks. Would he get pissed if he was suppose to be the person that "broke" her heart? (I don't know the details well because I didn't feel like pressing on it).

Yea option C is good but I promise myself not to fu*k up things anymore because lots of opportunities just flew by in my life.

If I go with B, how should I approach him? I mean this is really awkward and I don't want to make a wrong move because I'm new to the house.

Thanks theunflushables.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Kailex

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superwoman said:
If I go with B, how should I approach him? I mean this is really awkward and I don't want to make a wrong move because I'm new to the house.

Thanks theunflushables.
Do NOT go with B.
He's a housemate, nothing good can come of this.
 

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superwoman said:
We were chatting at a party and she's basically like "ok I like you but your housemate and I had history last year and it'll be weird and awkward if we hook up." Basically, the guy promised they will get back together this year but broke her heart. She dislikes him right now.

So what do I do now?
Ummmm ... she doesn't dislike him. She doesn't want to hit it off with you because she waiting for him to make his move.
 
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