"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Honesty, Genuineness, Integrity, Value.

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Ok this is a question.

Do you guys think playing the genuine honest guy type would actually work? Like embracing all of your faults and pretty much laying everything out on the table in a confident manner? Realizing your not perfect and have alot of problems but expressing them anyways?

Or is it better to be more of a mystery and subtley lay down the ****y and funny... without revealing too much about yourself?

Or do you think they both are equal personality types and both will attract women equally?

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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Both are effective.

Essentially, you are looking at the most pivotal choice of this whole thing.

Think of it like this.

If you want to get an amazing woman, you have two options. You can either become an amazing manipulator, or you can become an amazing man.

It's either one or the other.

Whichever one you choose is challenging. Whichever path you tread, you will need to take it a long way in order to consistently be successful.

It really depends who you want to be. You can be a success either way. It all depends on your choice now, whether you focus on tactics or natural self-expression.

It's the difference between indirect game and direct game.

It's also the difference between being a worthless manipulative scumbag, and an awesome person living an awesome life with the awesome woman or women that you want.

Done.
 

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Well don't go laying everything out, but being genuine and having integrity and value is part of being a real man. People are instinctive and they can always tell when someone is lying or hiding something.

I know lots of guys who are all talk, claim to know and to have done everything, and they start to believe their own hype. The problem is, people humour them to their face, then laugh behind their backs.

My philosophy is if you have faults you can change, work on changing them. If you can't change them, accept them. But never deny who you are.
 

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drjekyll made some good points. If you want amazing women, you need to be amazing yourself or have them thinking. Pickups are not really all that hard and neither is meeting a lot of different women. Developing great and solid relationships takes time and a very driven person who is willing to put in the quality and quantity of time necessary.
 

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I take great pride in being real in my intentions and character, but keep enough back so I'm not and open book to everybody. It's also in how you deliver yourself.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Being honest works in so many ways, I used to use it when I was in the game...

Great tool lol


-Cod3r
 

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Being able to speak with integrity shows you have backbone.
 

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different things work for different girls. Do what feels right for you, and you'll land the girl that fits you.
 

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Good advice spesmilitis. Since a fit is about compatability.
 

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Yes, this is true. Honesty and genuineness doesn't work on women who are total *****es. At the same time, women who are total *****es do not deserve the ****. As such, **** em.

Being genuine nets you the best girls - the secure, sassy, cool ones who aren't just nice to look at.

It also keeps you sane.

That's why, IMO, direct game beats indirect game hands down. It's better, it's better fun, and it's better for you.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I really need to stop swearing.
 
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