"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Homecoming: Got a yes... but

Bling

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I thought of all the people I wanted to go to homecoming with. I had already turned in my papers, so my choices were set up to be either Junior or Senior and they had to be in my school (I could've brought an outside guest but like I said earlier, turned in my papers). Number one on my list Christina. She's cute and has a great personality. Last year I sat with her and her three friends at lunch. I use to crack on the girls like crazy. I one time wrote a funny ass love letter to Christina's friend Jessica professing my love to her, telling her romantic **** and signed it "Big Mike". It was clearly a joke. Jessica found out, and we all laughed about it big time. I built friendships with all of the girls, but the least with Christina. Oh yeah, they're a year younger than me if that matters.

So speed up to this year. I knew where her locker was, and I first got approach anxiety. I went to my buddy's locker, and then grabbed my balls and did the approach. I taped on her, and pulled her away from her friends.

I said: Hi. Do you want to go to homecoming with me? (in a real light voice.)
Her: What?
Bling: Do you want to go to homecoming with me?
Her: Are you serious? (not a mean tone, just questioning)
Bling: Yeah. (I gave a straight face)
Her (thinks for a second): Sure.
Bling: Cool. (I forget what little line else I said... brushed her shoulder and walked away)

No kidding. Sounds dull, but I use to freeze around this ****. I actually grabbed my balls. I'm glad I did it.

Here's the question: does she really want to go with me? Maybe she was shocked and that's why it took a bit to answer. Maybe she wanted to go with some other guy. There's no true spark between us, and I doubt there ever will be. Maybe I shouldn't ask you guys if she really wants to go with me, I doubt you guys can judge without observing her BL and my BL and our history. The real question is: How do I find out she really wants to go with me?

Freshman year I took the hottest girl my age. Turns out I asked her just before her future boyfriend did. She tried telling me she wanted to go with him, but she didn't speak up and I couldn't tell (thought she want hinting big time). You guys understand what I'm saying? I don't want to go to homecoming with a girl that is going to treat me like **** because she wanted another guy to ask her. How can I ask her friends if she wants to go with me without coming off as insecure and needy?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Umm...you can't, because it is insecure and needy. Instead, focus on making yourself someone that, even if she didn't really want to go with you at first, she will by the time you're through.

Worst case scenario, you just obtained yourself some social proof homecoming night.
 

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Bling said:
No kidding. Sounds dull, but I use to freeze around this ****. I actually grabbed my balls. I'm glad I did it.

Here's the question: does she really want to go with me? Maybe she was shocked and that's why it took a bit to answer. Maybe she wanted to go with some other guy.
Grab those balls again kid. If she doesn't say anything to you then disregard and carry along.
 

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Stacks Of Terror said:
Grab those balls again kid. If she doesn't say anything to you then disregard and carry along.

Grab the balls for what? Ask her if she really wants to go with me? I really don't like that as advice.
 

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Bling said:
Grab the balls for what? Ask her if she really wants to go with me? I really don't like that as advice.
No. I'm saying that you sounded timid and unsure. I'm saying grab those ballas and man up. If she doesn't say anything to you then your fine. Not once did I say go ask her. That would imply your unsure of yourself and lower your value to her.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Grand Wizzard Alamar

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Bling said:
I don't want to go to homecoming with a girl that is going to treat me like **** because she wanted another guy to ask her.
you're overanalyzing.. why would she agree if she didn't want to go?
unless this is the same girl from your freshman year, dw about it, just be like "hey I'll see you at homecoming *wink*" or something you can think of.
 
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