So my home girl was telling me how much of a good guy I am and that she really wants me to start dating her friend who is an HB8. Only problem. Her friend doesn't wanna have sex till she's married. Is there a way around this? I'm at an age where sex in a relationship is normal and I unno if I can b tied down for a year and not have sex.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Home girl trying to hook me up, but the girl is a nun
- Thread starter Rint
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Igetit!
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Well since you're 18,I suppose this is as good a time as any to learn this lesson...Rint said:She's not literally a nun, but I heard this guy dumped her cause she wouldn have sex with her and she dated this other guy for 3 years and nothin as well.
You can't always get what you want.
It's really simple.
You want a girl you can have sex with.
This girl wants to wait until she's married to have sex.
Well? So what's the problem here? What's the confusion?
You want to have sex NOW. She wants to wait.
Clearly you two aren't compatible. Instead of you trying to change her or get her to do something she doesn't want to do,you simply need to go find a girl who wants the same thing you want,and this girl needs to find a guy who doesn't mind waiting. I mean come on,it isn't rocket science.
If you were to get with her,you'd only frustrate yourself.
I think it's dumb to try to change people.
Just go on about your business and leave her alone.
She doesn't want to be pressured into having sex,and you don't want to be pressured into being celibate.
So you go your way and find a girl who wants what you want,and she should go find a guy who wants what she wants instead of you two causing each other unnecessary stress and tension ON TOP OF the normal problems male/female relationships encounter.
Sounds like you aren't emotionally invested in her yet and don't know her so well, so I would advise nexting this girl before you even start. There are lots and lots of HB8s around, why waste all your time on this one?
I'm not saying it would be impossible to get her into bed, I've done it before with a "no sex before marriage" girl. It just takes that much more time/effort and it isn't really worth it.
I'm not saying it would be impossible to get her into bed, I've done it before with a "no sex before marriage" girl. It just takes that much more time/effort and it isn't really worth it.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.