"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Holy sh!t!!! Read this BPD chicks story!
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
5string
Master Don Juan
Can you believe this sh!t? Fvckin escort (550.00/hr) who rages on her AFC hockey boyfriend, fvcks guys all day and then comes home to fvck him and abuse him even more!Yo'Mama said:
Classic BPD.
And for you guys who don't know about this stuff, you'd better study up on it. May save your soul.
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
Sometimes I wonder about the "chicken and egg" thing.
Is someone with a MASSIVE ego prone to open up the floodgates of BPD behavior, or does BPD, as a mental disorder, inflate the ego?
Either way, it seems to me that one core issue is it's all about ME. BPD women are so self-obsessed that it's frightening.
My little sister has all sorts of mental problems (not BPD) and the one thing I notice is that she's completely self-absorbed. It seems to me that there are 2 things that are sure to breed madness: Self-absorption and isolation. Both of those cause one to self-destruct.
Is someone with a MASSIVE ego prone to open up the floodgates of BPD behavior, or does BPD, as a mental disorder, inflate the ego?
Either way, it seems to me that one core issue is it's all about ME. BPD women are so self-obsessed that it's frightening.
My little sister has all sorts of mental problems (not BPD) and the one thing I notice is that she's completely self-absorbed. It seems to me that there are 2 things that are sure to breed madness: Self-absorption and isolation. Both of those cause one to self-destruct.
5string
Master Don Juan
Atom
This chick has body dismorphic disorder as well. She's obsessed with her appearance. It's the only thing from which she derives any kind of self worth.
She has nothing else to offer. Thus, she's an escort.
And what a chump BF! I could never sleep with her after she got home from "work".
This chick has body dismorphic disorder as well. She's obsessed with her appearance. It's the only thing from which she derives any kind of self worth.
She has nothing else to offer. Thus, she's an escort.
And what a chump BF! I could never sleep with her after she got home from "work".
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Wow thanks for posting. I've dated some chicks who were mildly crazy, but never anything like this. How does a guy even get involved with something like this? I don't have a lot of sympathy for the dude because it seems like you could see something this nuts coming from a mile away. But then again who knows, since I've never experienced it..
sexysuave
Senior Don Juan
Wow dude, good find.
My guess is that he doesn't know what she does during the day. At least I hope not, otherwise I don't know how to explain it lol.
I mean, being an ex pro hockey player, dating some top notch lookers as she said, why would he date an escort after all that?
I don't care if she is the hottest chick in the entire UNIVERSE, if she does anyone else, even once, and I find out about it, I'd NEVER go back, no matter what!
She doesn't mention if he knows about her escort job, so I'm guessing he doesnt'. He just knows about her BPD.
My guess is that he doesn't know what she does during the day. At least I hope not, otherwise I don't know how to explain it lol.
I mean, being an ex pro hockey player, dating some top notch lookers as she said, why would he date an escort after all that?
I don't care if she is the hottest chick in the entire UNIVERSE, if she does anyone else, even once, and I find out about it, I'd NEVER go back, no matter what!
She doesn't mention if he knows about her escort job, so I'm guessing he doesnt'. He just knows about her BPD.
sexysuave
Senior Don Juan
Nevermind lol,
I'm reading the rest of the responses below, and she goes on to explain how she did tell him what she does and convinced him that she has no feelings for those guys.
Wow,, not sure what to say here, this dude is a chump, but that entire situation kinda sucks.. this is nuts
I'm reading the rest of the responses below, and she goes on to explain how she did tell him what she does and convinced him that she has no feelings for those guys.
Wow,, not sure what to say here, this dude is a chump, but that entire situation kinda sucks.. this is nuts
Man's not so AFC, simple mind-control my dear Watson.
She said he cheated on her in their first year, which worsened the trust...
Then he, being "in love" with this girl (I assume from dating her for 3 years) mustve experienced a great amount of guilt since she found out. She probably manipulated and played on this emotion so it manifested itself into AFC-ish "love" (there is such thing as healthy love) so he became submissive and was willing to take her **** to stay with her.
2 years of reinforcement of this and he is on the tips of her fingers, a marionette I believe the puppet is called in some cases, and yeah.
No need to hate on the women for having a ****ed up past, everyone has problems so don't judge until you've been there.
Peace out.
She said he cheated on her in their first year, which worsened the trust...
Then he, being "in love" with this girl (I assume from dating her for 3 years) mustve experienced a great amount of guilt since she found out. She probably manipulated and played on this emotion so it manifested itself into AFC-ish "love" (there is such thing as healthy love) so he became submissive and was willing to take her **** to stay with her.
2 years of reinforcement of this and he is on the tips of her fingers, a marionette I believe the puppet is called in some cases, and yeah.
No need to hate on the women for having a ****ed up past, everyone has problems so don't judge until you've been there.
Peace out.
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
A perfect example of two people who revile themselves and will therefore create all sorts of mental contrivances to numb the pain.
A mentally unstable woman can do that to a man... The good times are so good that he will overlook the horror that lurks underneath. She is his drug, and he can't get out.
A mentally unstable woman can do that to a man... The good times are so good that he will overlook the horror that lurks underneath. She is his drug, and he can't get out.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
5string
Master Don Juan
True Atom.Atom Smasher said:
This woman should not be in a relationship, period! She's goofier than a sh!t house rat. Further, she's fvcking up hockey boy bigtime. My Gawd! How can this guy have sex with her when she come home after a hard day at work. He's just as fvcked up as she is! He must have been checked into the boards too much and had one too many concussions!
I just don't understand that he knows she's been railed that day by five fat real estate agents and then have sex with her! Jeezus!