Holy sh!t I just don't get it

[.Paradox.]

And from how it looks I never will.

Two girls I've tried to date within the last month have ended up ignoring me.

The first I "dated" for 1-2 weeks. We saw each other very frequently--like every other day. She texted me a lot and was obviously very interested. I even took her out to dinner, spent the night, etc. It was seeming very boyfriend/girlfriend-ish. Then all of a sudden she stopped texting me, gave me a bullsh!t excuse for not being able to hangout, and I could tell from her social media that she was f*cking another dude. I summed this one up to her being a total wh0re. Literally f*cking another guy 3-5 days after I had just busted inside of her.

The second girl was very recent. Met up with her and had a chill night of netflix and wine. Pretty sure we were both extremely attracted to each other, and after "fighting" for it for a while we slept together. Once again, she was obviously very interested and I could see it through her texts. I never had to wait more than 5-10 minutes for a text back from her and she was very receptive to everything I said and very flirty. Anyways, that first date was last friday. With her work schedule and vacation, we didn't think we'd be able to hangout again for like 3 weeks, but on sunday she texted me saying she got off work early and wanted to see me. We went out for dinner, which I paid for, then back to her place for a nightcap and a little bit of hanging out. Texted her earlier this morning to wish her a happy birthday and tell her I wish I was there to give her her bday present... All night long ( ). From my iphone read receipt, it says she read it literally the exact same minute I sent it, but how about that--no response!

Only similarities between these women:

-Both in air force
-Both recently-ish got out of relationships (the first had been single for 6 weeks when I first met her, and the second single for 4-5 months)

 

[.Paradox.]

I can't tell if you are trolling or not...

Why would I be trolling...

 

[.Paradox.]

you are coming off too strong. why would you do all that for a stranger? let her earn it.

Oh she earned it

 

[PantyWhisperer]

why would you give her a present (you barely know her), why are you paying for dinner? why are you so available?

I think he meant birthday present, as in have sex with her..

 

[.Paradox.]

I think he meant birthday present, as in have sex with her..

Lol yep.

 

[dustmuffin]

You were to available and they lost interest. Cut down on texting etc. Other than that she probably met a guy she liked better. Move along find other women.

 

[.Paradox.]

You were to available and they lost interest. Cut down on texting etc. Other than that she probably met a guy she liked better. Move along find other women.

she met another guy while out of state and within less than 4 days of us hanging out?

 

[RangerMIke]

My guess is you went too fast. With your first girl: Seeing a women every other day for 2 weeks is too much too soon.

With your second girl, you were too available and got too close too fast. When she called you with last minute plans you should have told her you were busy and tried to set up something else another time. You didn't know her long enough to acknowledge her birthday. You put out the vibe you were going too fast.

Slow down... be patient.

 

[Yewki]

Holy sh!t I just don't get it.

Going to take a guess you rely too much on girls for validation, and come across as desperate and needy

Otherwise this thread probably wouldn't exist
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/index.php?threads/holy-sh-t-i-just-dont-get-it.235500/

 

[.Paradox.]

Going to take a guess you rely too much on girls for validation, and come across as desperate and needy

Otherwise this thread probably wouldn't exist

Sex is the only thing in my life that I actually look forward to anymore.

 

[Dingo]

Women are out there playing as well... They "nexted" you.

Keep sarging... it's a numbers game.

 

[The Duke]

I don't think you really did much wrong...its just the type of girls you had. They both had other/better offers. Let it go, you never know when they might come back around! I wouldn't beat myself up over it.

 

[Von]

You did great to the V

However you shown neediness after that (too much free)

They were spinning plates and got better offer on their standards

I say after the V you should have relax on the contacts.

You got the V, now next

 

[.Paradox.]

Of course I saw her again on Sunday. We weren't going to be able to see each other for 3 weeks

 

[daddymonsterpoodle]

Yup, a little desperate and maybe the sex wasnt that great for them...

 

[.Paradox.]

I even called her out and got no response. Wow. And here I originally thought this girl was nice and sweet. Turns out she's just another childish scumbag cvnt who's wasting our oxygen by being alive.

 

[CMNILS87]

I even called her out and got no response. Wow. And here I originally thought this girl was nice and sweet. Turns out she's just another childish scumbag cvnt who's wasting our oxygen by being alive.

So you called her out and then what? You lose all power with that outburst. You got rejected, now you're pissy.

1. Chase more girls
2. Text/talk to grow security with her, set date, disappear.
3. Everyone's playing each other, don't take it personally,

 

[daddymonsterpoodle]

OP How old are you really, 13, 14? Please stop trying to impress us. We are happy to help out with genuine questions but there is enough BS on these boards. We dont need more.

 

[Slash Dolo]

Paradox, you seem like a good dude. I'm gonna tell you a little story that will help.

The most attractive girl I've ever dated dated me because, while we were just casually seeing each other for the first week or two, she was also talking to another guy. She told me she was from the start. My response was "cool, I'm seeing some other girls as well." After that, he may as well not have existed to me.

I still casually saw her, but I saw the other girls as well. I would go days without texting her. Would be pretty late with my responses and not give her any special treatment. And all this knowing this other guy was probably doing the exact opposite of these things. After a few weeks, she broke it off with him and chose me to get exclusive with. And he... cried, according to her. Don't be the guy giving too much too soon.

The moral of the story is; less is always more.

 

[.Paradox.]

"Talk about being disrespectful? How dare you talk to me like that. I've been home with my family and busy. I'm definitely not interested in a boy with a potty mouth."

That was her response. A total piece of **** lie, which I know is a lie because she removed me from snapchat and insta earlier this week before I had even texted her. I figured she'd respond to the insult/drama text. They always do for some reason. But I was hoping she would have given me a reason for her actions so I could have at least gotten some insight into her ****ed up mind.

I'm really sorry for sounding like a b!tch, but me finding a girl who I actually want to date and not just fvck happens once in a blue moon, then when I do find one this is what happens.

I know and will admit when I fvck up. I am CONSTANTLY talking to different girls and if I do/say something stupid or blow myself out somehow, which leads to me getting ignored/rejected, I will take responsibility for it. But I literally did nothing wrong here. Nothing. My game was on point on our first date and the sex was great, she texted the sh!t out of me the next day, then the day after that she was so interested that she turned the tables and invited me out. I didn't act needy, desperate, weird, I didn't double-text... Everything was perfect.