Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Holy -blam!- I figured it out!

Yoko Kurama

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I know why I am always tripping over my self when I talk to women. I think TOO much. Even when I am not around them I shouldn't think about em'! Because if I do think about them beforehand when I am talking to them I tend to think about what I was thinking about beforehand which distracts me and cause me to THINK and ACT in stupid ways! I am following my instincts when it comes to women, from here on out. Pure, instant, non-contemplated reactions.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Triple T

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Yoko Kurama said:
I know why I am always tripping over my self when I talk to women. I think TOO much. Even when I am not around them I shouldn't think about em'! Because if I do think about them beforehand when I am talking to them I tend to think about what I was thinking about beforehand which distracts me and cause me to THINK and ACT in stupid ways! I am following my instincts when it comes to women, from here on out. Pure, instant, non-contemplated reactions.
Good on you. :up:

Rest of you guys that think too much should listen to this guy. Don't think (too much) about what your going to do, just do it. Some of my highest moments of my DJ career was when I was so pumped I didn't care what was coming out of my mouth, I just said whatever came to my mind right away and it UPed my game ALOT!

Don't think too much, just act. Or else you'll psyche yourself out.
 

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exactly
 

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Agreed. My most AFC moments usually come/used to come when I'd plan a conversation or situation beforehand; then when soemthing changes I'd be too busy figuring out what I was supposed to do next then I'd start kinda panicing or getting anxious.

In other words, you're right.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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your 1000% correct. its my main problem too, and i still have trouble dealing with it sometimes. but im gettin better at it. good job uve realized, u dont kno how hard that step is for most ppl.
 
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