"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Holy -blam!- I figured it out!

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I know why I am always tripping over my self when I talk to women. I think TOO much. Even when I am not around them I shouldn't think about em'! Because if I do think about them beforehand when I am talking to them I tend to think about what I was thinking about beforehand which distracts me and cause me to THINK and ACT in stupid ways! I am following my instincts when it comes to women, from here on out. Pure, instant, non-contemplated reactions.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Yoko Kurama said:
I know why I am always tripping over my self when I talk to women. I think TOO much. Even when I am not around them I shouldn't think about em'! Because if I do think about them beforehand when I am talking to them I tend to think about what I was thinking about beforehand which distracts me and cause me to THINK and ACT in stupid ways! I am following my instincts when it comes to women, from here on out. Pure, instant, non-contemplated reactions.
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Good on you. :up:

Rest of you guys that think too much should listen to this guy. Don't think (too much) about what your going to do, just do it. Some of my highest moments of my DJ career was when I was so pumped I didn't care what was coming out of my mouth, I just said whatever came to my mind right away and it UPed my game ALOT!

Don't think too much, just act. Or else you'll psyche yourself out.
 
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exactly
 
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Agreed. My most AFC moments usually come/used to come when I'd plan a conversation or situation beforehand; then when soemthing changes I'd be too busy figuring out what I was supposed to do next then I'd start kinda panicing or getting anxious.

In other words, you're right.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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your 1000% correct. its my main problem too, and i still have trouble dealing with it sometimes. but im gettin better at it. good job uve realized, u dont kno how hard that step is for most ppl.
 
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