"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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holding hands?

chrisgoodrich25

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I find this sort of thing really uncompfortable..likes its being submissive..girly even but I seem to get a good responce from it..I don't like it cause its extra feminin and alpha me..dont play that **** ..what you guys think..is it acceptable to hold a girls hand while at the movies..with you initiating it?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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WaterTiger

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It's not submisive...it's possessive!:cool: You're showing her that she belongs to YOU. It shows everyone who sees the pair of you that you are a couple.

ALSO....

It's a GREAT way to initiate kino! Use your imagination! You have control of her hand USE IT!
While holding her hand:

Kiss it;)
Nibble on her fingers:whistle:
Suck her fingers:crazy:
Rub the back of her hand on your body:up:
 

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WaterTiger said:
It's not submisive...it's possessive!:cool: You're showing her that she belongs to YOU. It shows everyone who sees the pair of you that you are a couple.

ALSO....

It's a GREAT way to initiate kino! Use your imagination! You have control of her hand USE IT!
While holding her hand:

Kiss it;)
Nibble on her fingers:whistle:
Suck her fingers:crazy:
Rub the back of her hand on your body:up:
Agreed.

It can show a lot of dominance. I kind of use it as a reward system. She does something kind of cute, I grab her hand and smile at her. If she does something really sexy, I grab her by something else. Make sure YOU are the one initiating and breaking the hand holding. If something comes up that grabs your attention, break the hold. Or break the hold for no reason at all. This shows that she isn't your top priority.

Hand-holding may sound feminine but it's not. It's just another form of kino that can be used effectively.
 
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