"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Hockey Playa

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Well I've finally got enough motivation to keep track of my progress on here, as well as receive advice on my workouts and diet:)

Background: i have been playing comptetive sports since about 7 years old. I played AAA hockey and baseball, which gave me year round activites. This has gave me very consistent low body fat, and metabolism. Started lifting 3 years ago. At the time i was uneducated, and just did machines, Bicep curls, haha you know how it goes..About 1 year ago, i really read alot of posts and researched working out on this site, and starting to lift sensibly. Incorporated the BP, Squats, Deads Chinups, Dips into my workout. My biggest obstacle has been my diet. I used to eat whatever i wanted, when i wanted, with no consequences because of my metabolism, but could never get cut. After becoming informed about the importance of diet, i have successfully, dropped sodas, most of fast foods, and sugars out of my diet. I still have a huge problem incorporating enough protein. Im basically a huge carb man. I have also took supplement advice, and incorporated, Omega3, Vitamin C, multi vitamin, and green tea extract into my diet:)

Current Stats: Age 18(almost 19), 5'11 1/2, 183 lbs
Goals: -Have a good Beach Body by summer, and continue making gains, without losing to much flexibility
3 main goals by june: Bench: 2 plates(225) Deadlift: 3 plates(315) Squat: plates(315)

[Todays's Workout] I have just recovered from a nasty cold that had sapped my energy pretty good. I gave myself enough time to make sure i was better though, like you guys suggested. Since i work on a 3 day split today was my BACK, and SHOULDERS day.

Deadlift:
2 warmup sets
205lbs X 10(reps)
225 X 8
225 X 8

DB Shoulder Press:
50lbs X 12
55 X 10
55 X 8
60 X 6

Barbell Bent-over Rows: ]
115lbs X 10
125 X 8
125 X6

Seated DB Side Raises:
25 X 12
25 X 10
25 X 8

Lat Pulldowns(machine):
80 X 12
90 X 10
100 X 8


Weighted Hyper Extensions(45lbs):
12 reps
12
12

**Shower, Sauna, protein shake to end***
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Hockey Playa

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Workout Description: Felt Really motivated to workout today, lots of energy, unfortunately my schedule would not allow me to go till late at night 9:45-11p.m. Today i did CHEST + TRI's + TRAPS

**5 min bike for warmup, stretch

Benchpress:
135 - warmup
215 - 2 reps, 2 negs (dont know why i started with this, thought i could do more)
185 - 6 reps, 2 negs
185 - 4 reps, 2 negs
155 - 8 reps
135 - 15 reps cooldown

Barbell Shrugs:
135 - warmup set
185 - 11 reps
205 - 10 reps
215 - 8 reps


Pull-downs(machine)
:
90 - 12
100 - 10
110 - 8

Incline DB press:
55lbs - 12
60 - 10
60 - 8

Flies
30lbs x 12
30 X 10
30 X 9

Hanging Dips:
8 reps
****could not complete my sets because gym closed and i got booted (N)
 

Hockey Playa

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Workout Description: I was getting really down with myself, because i hadnt worked out in 4 days, and i had drank 2 of the last 4 nights(for my friends 19th birthdays which only happen once right:yes: ). It was supposed to be my lower body next, but i have hockey 2morrow, which would be not allow me to do lower. I decided to go for and simply do BI's, and ABS

Chin-Ups:
10
6
4 ( my strength seems to really decrease after the 1st set)

BB Curls:
95 x 12
105 X 10
115 X 8

DB Seated Curls(alternating arms):
30lbs X 12
35 x 10
40 x 8

** ABS 15 mins @ end
 

Hockey Playa

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Workout Description: Havent worked out the past week. I had food poisoning and was throwing up with no appetite. Lost 5 lbs. Feel great today, decided to get into my routine. Today i did LOWER BODY + ABS

Warmup: run 5 mins

Squats: (based on WBA , told me not to pyramid weights)
135warmup
185 X 12
185 X 10
185 X 7
185 X 5

Legs Press:
250 warmup
310 X 12
310 X 10
310 X 10

Calf Raises: (based on knowledge learned here that calves respond better to higher reps)
130 X 20
130 X 15
130 X 11

Decline Weighted Situps:
10
10
10

Medicine ball seated twists:

2 sets of 30
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Hockey Playa said:
im confused, i do basically everything it outlines there. I jog or bike for 5 mins, stretch, and do 1-2 warmup sets of each exercise...
You didn't read the article properly.

"If you are benching or rowing or doing pulldowns with 205 x 5 a good warm-up would be:

Bar x 12
85 x 6
115 x 5
145 x 3
165 x 1
185 x 1
205 x 5 workset"

You can get a spreadsheet that calculates your warmup set weights for you at http://www.ironaddicts.com/forums/showthread.php?t=3404&page=4&highlight=warmup+spreadsheet
 

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Worksets will vary depending on your workload. For the static weight you're using, any more than 2 sets would be overkill especially when combined with the presses.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Hockey Playa

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Workout Description: Feeling fine, did BACK + BI's, with lots of energy and little time between sets

Deadlift:
bar warmup
135 x 5
155 x 3
185 x 2
Worksets: 205 X 8
205 X 8
225 X 8

Chinups: 10, 6, 5

Lat Pulldowns
90 x 9
90 X9
90 X 9

Bent-Over Rows Machine ( dunno whats it proper name is)
added 65 pounds x 8
x8
x8

BB curls::
25 + bar x10
30 x 6
30 x 6

Hyper extensions:
holding 45 lbs
10
10
10
 

Hockey Playa

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Workout Description: was feeling a little lethargic, but dragged my ass to the gym anyway. Today was LEGS + CORE

Squats

warmup bar
135 x 5
185 x 5
215(workset) x 10
215 x 8
215 x 7
135 X 15 cooldown
******I am still unsure of my bench form, it seems to hurt my back sometimes, so i have decided to video tape myself next week, and post it here for comments

Medicine ball twists
40
35

Leg Press

250 warmup
330 X 10
330 X 10
330 X 10

Calf Raises:
140 x 10
130 X 15
120 X 18 (higher reps)

Floor Wiper ( attempted these with a 10 lbs bar)
5 ( 1 each direction)
5

Decline weighted situps
10
10
10
 
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