"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I'm looking to take on some exciting new things and I'm sure many of you have thought of adding more color to your life. I'll start with mine

-Offshore fishing
-Mountain biking
-Aquaponics
-Aquariums

I have tried golf, but it just wasn't for me, I might need to learn more patience. I started looking at archery, it seems quite interesting.

Please share yours!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Mountain biking, kayaking. Both requires balance and brings you close to nature.
 

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Here are mine

-Latin dance, especially salsa and tango
-Hiking
-Chess
-Fine dining & cooking (including teaching my kids to cook)
-Waterskiing, Snowskiing
-Baseball (STL Cards)
-Gardening and garden design
-Painting
-Singing

And contributing here. Been here long enough I think it qualifies as a hobby at this point, lol.

Cheers
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Just don't mix kayaking and fishing in the ocean, or at least watch some shark attack videos first.

I have run aquaponics with koi. At the moment, I would like to grow some aquaponic prawns.
I've seen a colorful crayfish setup on Craigslist for about $200. Looked pretty cool.
Do you have to run a chiller for the koi?
 

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I've seen a colorful crayfish setup on Craigslist for about $200. Looked pretty cool.
Do you have to run a chiller for the koi?
I had it in a basement, so no chiller was required. They are an expensive pain, but required if the water won't stay cool. I was looking at the giant prawns as food, $25 for 3 at the grocery store, $50 at a restaurant. They finish very quickly, like 6 to 9 months. Basil is a great crop for aquaponics, as is any lettuce or greens.
 
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I had it in a basement, so no chiller was required. They are an expensive pain, but required if the water won't stay cool. I was looking at the giant prawns as food, $25 for 3 at the grocery store, $50 at a restaurant. They finish very quickly, like 6 to 9 months. Basil is a great crop for aquaponics, as is any lettuce or greens.
I'll have to find where to get those prawns, I've only seen saltwater sold live. I'm curious if they are easy to breed as I'm looking at the cost-yield ratio.

Basils are very low maintenance and grow like weeds. I just can't finish them before they get out of control. Did you notice your basil taste a little too earthy?
 

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-Sailing
-Gardening (food crops)
-Biking
-Hiking
-Languages
-Music
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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How would one get into sailing, what initial investments should I prep for?
If you want to try it out, I suggest going to a sailing center and renting a boat or taking a class. No idea what this costs because I never did it.

Investment wise, it really depends on what you want to do with the boat, and what kind of water you have available. The Complete Sailing Manual is a great reference book and will help you decide what kind of sailing you want to do, as well as being a great reference.

You can easily find a starter boat for under $2k if you want to buy, but bear in mind that the bigger boats in this price range (22-24ft keel boats) have hidden costs like mooring/storage and registration fees, which is why they're so damn cheap. Smaller sport boats, like an Aero, a Laser or a Hobie can be stored at home for free, and can be towed with a car, but you can expect to spend more like $3k-$6k to get one in good shape.

For small sport boats you're going to need some kind of wetsuit or drysuit because you're inevitably going to get soaked or dunked. These run between $300-$800.
 

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Heh. Mustangs. I like new edge mustangs. 4v 4.6 from junk yard, teksid block, c heads, pro charger. Cars man. Fun hobbies that are YOU and that scream SUCCESS!

Fishing man, unless it's done from an expensive boat and you catching some big game, that just not a successful hobby, like playing chess or gardening. Those are old man hobbies.
 

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Fall Guys but I stop after getting a win or it gets too addictive.

Going out to dinner/movies

Watching Netflix or other streaming at home.

My current gf is also into all that stuff so we do it together.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Crocheting, woodworking and gardening are things I’d like to check out and explore.
+1 for woodworking
If you have the basics tools for it and enjoy it you can make small pieces of furniture for your place or sell them for extra $$
 
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