"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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hmmmm to AFC, or hopefully not AFC?

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hey guys,i just need a little advice from you's!
I met this girl a couple weeks ago, and we hit it off really well (holding hands, hugging, kissing, dirty dancing, joking about, CF). We have texted a few times since, she always replied like 3 minutes after my text, but then stopped after a couple messages (??), anyways, i didnt let it get to me and a couple days later she text me to basically say that she was having problems with her mobile phone and apologies to anyone she hasnt replied to! so today i thought what the hell, and text her again asking how her weekend was, she replied, i text back, then nothing since! my friend asked me if id asked her out yet and i said i hadnt and that she never replies after a couple texts, and he said that she prob doesnt want random texts about **** and to just grab the bull by the horns!! so i text her and said:
"hey, u up to much next week, fancy meeting up 4 a drink?X"
she replied like 2 mins later with:
"im on half nites all week, off 4 6 days the week after tho if thats any good? XX"
i replied with:
"aye the week after is fine! wednesday of that week?X"
to which i got:
"Think thats possibly the 1 day i cant do cos im on overtime! XX"
so i asked "thursday? X"
and she said:
"Backshift! Tuesday?X"
and i said:
"I work tuesdays! how about the Sunday after?x"

and no reply.

2 things id like to ask...
1) am i over-analysing this? i think i am
2) do I sound AFC? I have tried to build rapport, a lil ****y funny as well (which she called me a cheeky git :p), and stuff
I feel like I am acting like a total AFC, but in a way i feel that there was no other way to play this, except maybe ask her out straight away when i first got her number.

Advice greatly appreciated.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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smooth guy

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You're acting needy and you're being too available.
 
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just another newb??

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:D:D i remember a very similar thing happening to me.

I suggest you stop all the texting thing unless she enforces it on you.
One text can be good to keep her thinking about you...

But well this girl has probably lost her interest level a long time ago...to make your life easier. Just call her and say what I said when i was in a situation like that last time :"hey we both know that you can make time if you really wanted"

she cut all the bs and found the time...but it still didnt work out
 
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I'm inclined to agree with both of you! I've definately learnt something from this experience, even though it turned out bad, so I guess thats the important thing :)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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You problem is speed my friend. At the start you have to move very quickly, make her plan. All those msgs and no contact only hurt you in the end. Its all about physical contact.

Only after you secure your target, can you disappear as absence creates a need for you but only after your presence has conquered the target's imagination.
 
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I suck with the texting thing, too. It always seems like I lose whatever momentum I had built once texting ensues. Suddenly, she doesn't text me back, won't meet me anywhere, etc.

I thought it was a timing thing. Maybe not.
 
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