"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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hmmmm to AFC, or hopefully not AFC?

Jizzee

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hey guys,i just need a little advice from you's!
I met this girl a couple weeks ago, and we hit it off really well (holding hands, hugging, kissing, dirty dancing, joking about, CF). We have texted a few times since, she always replied like 3 minutes after my text, but then stopped after a couple messages (??), anyways, i didnt let it get to me and a couple days later she text me to basically say that she was having problems with her mobile phone and apologies to anyone she hasnt replied to! so today i thought what the hell, and text her again asking how her weekend was, she replied, i text back, then nothing since! my friend asked me if id asked her out yet and i said i hadnt and that she never replies after a couple texts, and he said that she prob doesnt want random texts about **** and to just grab the bull by the horns!! so i text her and said:
"hey, u up to much next week, fancy meeting up 4 a drink?X"
she replied like 2 mins later with:
"im on half nites all week, off 4 6 days the week after tho if thats any good? XX"
i replied with:
"aye the week after is fine! wednesday of that week?X"
to which i got:
"Think thats possibly the 1 day i cant do cos im on overtime! XX"
so i asked "thursday? X"
and she said:
"Backshift! Tuesday?X"
and i said:
"I work tuesdays! how about the Sunday after?x"

and no reply.

2 things id like to ask...
1) am i over-analysing this? i think i am
2) do I sound AFC? I have tried to build rapport, a lil ****y funny as well (which she called me a cheeky git :p), and stuff
I feel like I am acting like a total AFC, but in a way i feel that there was no other way to play this, except maybe ask her out straight away when i first got her number.

Advice greatly appreciated.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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smooth guy

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You're acting needy and you're being too available.
 
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:D:D i remember a very similar thing happening to me.

I suggest you stop all the texting thing unless she enforces it on you.
One text can be good to keep her thinking about you...

But well this girl has probably lost her interest level a long time ago...to make your life easier. Just call her and say what I said when i was in a situation like that last time :"hey we both know that you can make time if you really wanted"

she cut all the bs and found the time...but it still didnt work out
 

Jizzee

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I'm inclined to agree with both of you! I've definately learnt something from this experience, even though it turned out bad, so I guess thats the important thing :)
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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You problem is speed my friend. At the start you have to move very quickly, make her plan. All those msgs and no contact only hurt you in the end. Its all about physical contact.

Only after you secure your target, can you disappear as absence creates a need for you but only after your presence has conquered the target's imagination.
 

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I suck with the texting thing, too. It always seems like I lose whatever momentum I had built once texting ensues. Suddenly, she doesn't text me back, won't meet me anywhere, etc.

I thought it was a timing thing. Maybe not.
 
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