"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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hmmm test?

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I was talking to a girl over instant message, a girl who I hooked up with. Anyways Id like to think Im mastering reading girls and what not and gotten a lot better at it. but...


This one got me in a loop and needless to say I was sweating for a bit (still am...)

her: I got cheated on twice by my ex bf
me: we can both agree heart break sucks then
her: ya, it does, but this isnt anything serious so why does it matter.

I thought we were going somewhere special. I still have a date with her, so is this a sign that she doesnt see a potential future with me. Am I just waisting my time?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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This doesn't sound good.. I would just pretend like the convo never happened.

For some reason I hate using instant messenger now.. I used to like MSN or Yahoo but avoid it the plague these days. I think it does more harm than good.

What did you say to her next?
 

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dude exactly what I just did lol

her: no awkwardness though...like I still love going to the bars with you and such...
me: why would there be? nothing happened.
 

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Ha, I hope you actually didn't take this to heart.

Women say things all the time that are just complete BS.

In fact, I find that the women who do say this ARE the ones who are looking for something. They just want to get on "your level" and make sure that she isn't too ahead of things.

Completely ignore that comment. It isn't a test, it's just plain BS. Not all women are looking for relationships, but you can bet most women are always looking for a potential partner or at least FB at all times. It's in their nature to latch on. What they say doesn't mean squat. Ultimately their feelings take over any logic they claim to have.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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