"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Well. You see, i'm not sure anymore.. about my girlfriend. Things are getting old. I love her and all but.. i want something different.

See we've been going out for about 10 months the 16th of this month and my intrest is going out... I just want to be single. I had so many opportunities to make out with other girls at parties but shes holding me back because I dont want to cheat on her. Even though I had once which was a while back but I dont want to tell her about it cause she would never talk to me again. (For those of you remember, i made out with some chick who cant kiss for $hit and i risked getting my ass kicked by her dad:p heres the link for those of you who dont know lol http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=57803 )

So I'm not sure what to do.. etheir A.) waiting for her to dump me because i'm not to manly about doing it myself or B) just stick with her.

See shes REALLY REALLY attached and I dont want to break it off with her and so yeah.. I need help
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Dude. You gotta follow your gut. If you aint happy, you have to leave.
 
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Yeah man you are 16.. there will be many, many, many women if your life, throughout your adolesence and adulthood. Don't be too attatched to one at this point, especially when you want something different.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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So your willing to let your happiness slowly fade away just so you can keep her happy?

Perish the thought.....

Dump her, she WILL find someone better for her. I use this context because your not helping her if you don't want her. Look at it as doign her a favor. Your letting her go so she can find someone who truly wants to be with her. ;)

I believe that if you would explain it to her from this point of view she won't be as "heartbroken." And if you REALLY mean this stick to it and be a man.
 
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I finnally did it.. thank you for your help everyone.. especially you InsidiousNstinct ...

now her friend is threating to kill me.. Bummer.


Liz wrote:
Feb 20, 2005 12:33 PM

wtf you telling rosy all this **** huh? fuk i fukin swear to god. im going to fuking kill you, i aint ****ing around! she ****in gave up everything for you, and for you just to come up w./ **** like that? huh? i fukin swear if i see you im going to fukin stab the sh!t out of you!!!i aint fuking around luis
 
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Tough break. Obviously i don't know the bird, so i have no clue as to wether she'll go through with it. Otherwise, in me experience, these things blow over soon enough.
 
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Heres what I wrote to her friend

From Luis:
Feb 20, 2005 12:39 PM

please liz, shut up and listen. Like I didnt give up everything for her too? Shes not the only one here.. I aint coming up with no ****. Its all the truth..

So did she tell you everything?

I said I was willing to let my happiness slowly fade away just to keep her happy. How would you feel if you were in my situation? I'm letting her go so she can find someone who truly wants to be with her. I loved her, I meaned it. Times change, people change. Its the way of life. If your gonna kill me.. than it was nice knowing all of you. I'm sorry. I truly am.
 
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wtf you telling rosy all this **** huh? fuk i fukin swear to god. im going to fuking kill you, i aint ****ing around! she ****in gave up everything for you, and for you just to come up w./ **** like that? huh? i fukin swear if i see you im going to fukin stab the sh!t out of you!!!i aint fuking around luis
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Isn't funny if a man dumps a girl because he's not happy he's commited some sort of sin. On the other hand...if a girl does it...she's just wanting some space, and you should be oh so respectful of that. :rolleyes:


You did what you knew you had to do. You have no regrets...don't let this "liz" girl make you feel like you've done something wrong. I'm guessing this girl is your ex's friend and the reason why she is making such a big deal out of it.


All in all....aslong as you know deep down inside you made the right decision you don't have to answer to anyone except yourself
:)
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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