Me and my friend are getting together to "jam" in a few days. lame date idea? Yes. How the hell am I going to work with this? Of course, we used to be pretty close friends and all so it's fine as a fun thing to do together, but that leaves no time for much conversation or anything. No chance to show her I've changed and I'm no longer an AFC. Any ideas of how I could make this more interesting?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
hmm made a date difficult to work with...
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
.... thats all you asked, need advice on somethin else?MacDiddy
Master Don Juan
Don't bother with her.... Find other chicks... You seem like you got something to prove to her.... That pretext will already spoil your game...