"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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hmm help with a girl

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Well first off, I've read the forum/pages for a while now. I'm getting to DJ status but not quite there yet. Here's my dilemma :

I met a girl through friends/chatted with her thru facebook for a bit over the summer. Well finally one day we set up a date cuz I wanted to see Bruno (terrible idea/movie). It sucked bad but we did get a little chat in. Well, I asked her to get something to eat after and she said she just ate (aka didn't really wanna hang out that bad). So eff, I thought I had blew it by doing a gay typical first date and not making really any move other than CF.

So I back off, give her a lil space. Couple weeks later I talk to her and tell her about a party. She seemed interested. That night I CALL (**** texting for the most part) her and she says she'll go. I have an R6 (motorcycle, girls love em) that I pick her up on. It's her first time on a bike and I do some badass stuff and she liked. We get to the party, have a fun time. Before we go home I kissed her and it was on. We hung out again and whatnot.

Next week we go to a concert on a double date type thing and I blow it badddd. I'm all over her like a pansy. We don't hang out for a bit. Come to find out she's been seein someone all along (which I had been too).

A month later she comes over we watch a movie/kiss/cuddle and I'm all over her AGAIN! ****. We kinda stoped talking again and I kinda still like her. I'm still talking to other girls.... what should I do to try to set up another date with her?

ps sorry for such a long ass story. Thanks!
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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no I get what you're getting at. I think I just needed to hear someone to tell me stop trying too hard and let things happen.
 
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