me and my buddies are hanging out at a local coffee place and there it is about 4 of us so we occupy a table and my friends friend(girl) comes with her friends and sit at another table. By this time we were ready to leave so we leave except my friend stayed back to hang out with the chicks he invited and I told him one of them were cute. He said I will hook you up but I told him no I want to do it next time we hang out myself but he ignores me and gives her my number and she texts me and I was pissed so I didn't text her back, good move on my part?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
hmm did I handle this right
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
cuz we were going to see them again later this weekend so I told him I will just talk to her then no need to try to do anything to hook me up i just feel like its a ***** move maybe im wrong i dunno i haven't been in this situation so wasn't sure how to handle it
War Against Betaism
Master Don Juan
Ummmm no point in sulking in your pride at that point. Now she's going to think you're weird for ignoring her text.
cedd
Don Juan
what was the text message about ?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Kailex
Master Don Juan
How is ignoring her a good move on your part?Err0r said:
Don't blame your friend for being willing to do what YOU weren't IN the moment. Why did you want to wait til NEXT time? Are you kidding me... he did YOU a favor and you are lucky she even texted you at all.
By now, I'm probably sure it's too late and she feels like:
1) You don't have the testicular fortitude to approach her right away
2) You won't even text a freebie back
Which means that right about now, she's probably:
1) Talking to someone else
2) Telling everyone she knows that you are probably gay
oh well just wanted to know what you guys would have done just wanted some feedback.
we were already leaving when they came so I am not going to stop my group of leaving to go and talk to them but my friend said they will be going out with us this weekend so I was like I will just talk to her then.
live n learn
we were already leaving when they came so I am not going to stop my group of leaving to go and talk to them but my friend said they will be going out with us this weekend so I was like I will just talk to her then.
live n learn
I think you could text back and just picked it up from the prev. conversation.
I think I know how you feel, the whole pride maybe and wanting to get the interaction and hook up going yourself.
Next time just take those freebies and play with them. $hit play with every female.
I think I know how you feel, the whole pride maybe and wanting to get the interaction and hook up going yourself.
Next time just take those freebies and play with them. $hit play with every female.
You idiot.
Text her now and say "sorry for late reply, was busy with blablabla" or something. Getting a bit of conversation / rapport going before seeing her again on the weekend will help, as you will be that bit more comfortable with each other right off the bat. Then you can actually make your move.
(Although I doubt you have the balls to make any sort of move)
Text her now and say "sorry for late reply, was busy with blablabla" or something. Getting a bit of conversation / rapport going before seeing her again on the weekend will help, as you will be that bit more comfortable with each other right off the bat. Then you can actually make your move.
(Although I doubt you have the balls to make any sort of move)
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.