me and my buddies are hanging out at a local coffee place and there it is about 4 of us so we occupy a table and my friends friend(girl) comes with her friends and sit at another table. By this time we were ready to leave so we leave except my friend stayed back to hang out with the chicks he invited and I told him one of them were cute. He said I will hook you up but I told him no I want to do it next time we hang out myself but he ignores me and gives her my number and she texts me and I was pissed so I didn't text her back, good move on my part?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
hmm did I handle this right
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
cuz we were going to see them again later this weekend so I told him I will just talk to her then no need to try to do anything to hook me up i just feel like its a ***** move maybe im wrong i dunno i haven't been in this situation so wasn't sure how to handle it
War Against Betaism
Master Don Juan
Ummmm no point in sulking in your pride at that point. Now she's going to think you're weird for ignoring her text.
cedd
Don Juan
what was the text message about ?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Kailex
Master Don Juan
How is ignoring her a good move on your part?Err0r said:
Don't blame your friend for being willing to do what YOU weren't IN the moment. Why did you want to wait til NEXT time? Are you kidding me... he did YOU a favor and you are lucky she even texted you at all.
By now, I'm probably sure it's too late and she feels like:
1) You don't have the testicular fortitude to approach her right away
2) You won't even text a freebie back
Which means that right about now, she's probably:
1) Talking to someone else
2) Telling everyone she knows that you are probably gay
oh well just wanted to know what you guys would have done just wanted some feedback.
we were already leaving when they came so I am not going to stop my group of leaving to go and talk to them but my friend said they will be going out with us this weekend so I was like I will just talk to her then.
live n learn
we were already leaving when they came so I am not going to stop my group of leaving to go and talk to them but my friend said they will be going out with us this weekend so I was like I will just talk to her then.
live n learn
I think you could text back and just picked it up from the prev. conversation.
I think I know how you feel, the whole pride maybe and wanting to get the interaction and hook up going yourself.
Next time just take those freebies and play with them. $hit play with every female.
I think I know how you feel, the whole pride maybe and wanting to get the interaction and hook up going yourself.
Next time just take those freebies and play with them. $hit play with every female.
You idiot.
Text her now and say "sorry for late reply, was busy with blablabla" or something. Getting a bit of conversation / rapport going before seeing her again on the weekend will help, as you will be that bit more comfortable with each other right off the bat. Then you can actually make your move.
(Although I doubt you have the balls to make any sort of move)
Text her now and say "sorry for late reply, was busy with blablabla" or something. Getting a bit of conversation / rapport going before seeing her again on the weekend will help, as you will be that bit more comfortable with each other right off the bat. Then you can actually make your move.
(Although I doubt you have the balls to make any sort of move)
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.