"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Hitting a slump. Stuck for now.

MrP

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After discovering this site and learning the ways of the DJ, I'm pretty good with girls... sometimes. It's like I have a switch in my head that turns on sometimes.

I think it might be related to the fact that I have no friends. It's really starting to take a toll on me.

It's like I know exactly what to do, but I'm the creepy guy who no one talks to in a lot of my classes, but in a few I'm pimpin'.

It's like everyone is best friends with one another and I don't know anyone. I have no idea how to make friends so I'm asking for help from you guys.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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GoodButNotGreat

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just start a convo with someone...be outgoing and ask relevant questions, im sure you'll find similarities which can spark a friendship interest.

just put yourself out there, most people are pretty nice and wouldnt mind another friend as long as you are chill.

sometimes i'll notice someone who i know is in my class at a store or something, and ill just go up to them and say something like, "your in blah blah class right? doesn't it seem like the teacher is stoned all the time?" any comment can start your convo, then you just ask them what year they are, major, etc. just get the ball rolling u have nothing to loose...
 

ElCubanito13

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I just wanna be sure, are we talking bout guy friends or female friends?
 

AlexLefty

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Making guy friends is actually a pretty daunting thing at first. To make friends, just like women, you're going to have to be prepared. Watch football games on saturdays and sundays, actually, read up about all sports and learn players/positions/teams/things about them, read up about concerts and buy/read about the newest video games.

You'll have a more than adequate foundation by doing all this to start some conversations with guys. Now all you have to do is start a conversation with a guy. You can do this by: Asking to borrow a pencil/something, Making eye contact and saying 'whats up', introducing yourself to a table and asking if they watched the game the other night etc.

Be outgoing and do stuff that will get you noticed like making loud comments in class etc.

Bottom line though, whenever you catch a guys eye contact, say, "what up bro", followed by an introduction, followed by a "did you see/play/hear about that sports game/video game/event".

Use your basic DJ skills.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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ElCubanito13

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Well you have to use your DJ skills minus the sexuality in a way. Be friendly, open minded and outgoing. Just curious don't you already have friends from middle school?
 
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