"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Hittin' on the barrista, or wait, she's hitting on me..?

MountainSlide

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I go this coffee shop all the time and a new barrista started working there, this girl is HB8. Anyway when I go in, she starts talking to me, to the extent that I have to interrupt her just to order my drink. It's all smiles and flirting and I would really like to bang her. I'm not a bad looking guy, I am probably about a 7 (realistically). Anyway I need third person advice on how to seal the deal and get this sexy girl out on a **** date.
 
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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marmel75

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"Well, (NAME), I'd love to talk more but I have to get going. Write your number down and I'll call you or shoot you a text sometime and we can talk more over a drink one night."

Then Shut up and wait for her response. Most likely she will give you the number. If not then pull out your phone and say "814..." Or whatever area code you are in and she will 90% complete the number for you as you punch it in your phone...
 

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marmel75 said:
"Well, (NAME), I'd love to talk more but I have to get going. Write your number down and I'll call you or shoot you a text sometime and we can talk more over a drink one night."
This is good. I would omit the "and we can talk over a drink part" though.
 

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she is already talking with you so just ask her number for you talk with her later,

one thing you can do, if is that cofee shops they write your name on the cup, tell her to write her number on it too, so you talk with each other later.

but be ready for her to flake, in any case its her job so as job goes she could be just doing it.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Lozboss

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Get her to write it down or tell you.

Marmel has it down 100%

Grow some balls

If you want to check it real reheard it to her and change the last two digits

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She's just being friendly like women are to paying customers at shops and restaurants. I work in the business and if I had a dime for every guy that thought the help was hitting on them I would have a million dollars. Don't confuse a friendly conversation for her having interest to go on a date.
 

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Firestar786 said:
Bull****.

As he explained she's going out if her way does her $5 an hour wage make her do that ?

I have the girls at my restaurants act nice to customers to keep them coming back and to get them bigger tips.

We will see what happens when he asks her out. I'm not expecting much to come of this.
 
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In my (limited) experience, you need to do more than just ask for a number when it comes to baristas and waitresses. The reason for that is you don't really need any confidence to approach them. If a woman is just walking around in the mall or on the street you have to risk rejection simply by talking to her. Talking to a waitress or barista doesn't risk any rejection, so you're not displaying any confidence either.

My go-to move it to simply "space-out" for a few seconds starting at her, then interrupt her and give her a genuine compliment. "wow, you have the most gorgeous blue eyes". Most guys won't have the balls to do that, so that's your chance to display your confidence and build her attraction. You could also not even ask for her number, just ask her when she's free and tell her to meet you back at the coffee shop for the date. That will build her attraction too, because she'll want to text you but can't because she doesn't have your number.

The goal is simply to make yourself stand out from the hundreds of other guys she sees every day. No doubt lots of guys ask for her number every day, so if that's all you do you're really limiting your chances of getting a date with her.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Cafe's are some of the best places to get laid. I used to work at Bookstores with cafe's in the, those places have so much bait walking around. Plus they're in a comfortable environment, not like a club.

If she's picking you up then just let it happen. Personally I stay away from staff. But for every rule there is an exception.
 
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