Afchump1989 said:
i liked this girl..thought she liked me, she was stubborn denied it and I called her out on it.
YOU NEVER DO THIS. First, a girl is not stubborn for not admitting she doesn't like you - 90% of the time, it just means she doesn't actually like you.
Just 'cause a girl is being nice to you doesn't mean she wants to be with you - most girls are nice in a friendly manner to EVERYBODY. And, on the off-chance that she DID like you, you trying to call her out on it made the whole thing rushed to where she wasn't comfortable with the pace at which you were making her admit her feelings. Either way, no bueno.
Afchump1989 said:
It was bad..telling her thanks for wasting my time and playing games with me. She got mad, seen at school a month later and she gave me the silent treatment.
YOU NEVER DO THIS. It makes you come across as a wining, impatient AFC who's mad for not getting his way.
Another thing: girls who like you will NOT play games. Specifically, they will not play the game most guys think girls are playing when they don't like them - the "oh, I like him, but I think I'll mess with his head first and make him think I don't like him at first so he'll chase me" game. This game does NOT exist.
Contrary to what most guys think, girls, while having more options than men, only like a certain amount of guys, and can be left waiting YEARS before they find the option they want to go out with. Therefore, when that option comes along, it's a waste of their time to play games for too long with a guy because he might decide to choose someone else.
That's why I always say: if they're "playing games" with you, they're NOT playing games - they just don't like you.
Afchump1989 said:
Anyways, now I still have feelings for her but not like before but I still feel bad because of what I said... im thinking of sending her a text not saying sorry to her directly, but for the way I acted. I guess I need somewhat closure..i dont care if she doesnt respond, I just need to be at peace with myself.
YOU NEVER DO THIS. She wasn't interested in the first place, and you saying what you said gave her the excuse to not have to talk to you. As sucky as what you said was, you did her a favor.
You trying to apologize now is both pointless AND selfish: pointless because it doesn't matter what you say to her, she's not interested in hearing it; and selfish because you're only trying to apologize to make yourself feel like the nice guy you think you are. I don't doubt you're a nice guy, but the fact that you're saying "I need closure" and "I need to be at peace with myself" means you're only doing it for you. It would have been better to have said "I'm apologizing in case I caused her any hurt" or "I just want to take away those things I said to her."
Plus - and here's the kicker - did it dawn on you that the phone works both ways? If she wanted to talk to you, she would have hit you up by now. I've had times where I said the absolute worse things I could think of to a chick... yet they would eventually hit me up, even if it was just to say "you were a d!ck to me, we need to talk." Still calling me out for being mean, yet still showing interest. Is she doing that to you? If not, there's a reason...
