I went on a first date with a girl and I thought we had good chemistry. The only issue is she's really shy, I felt like I was talking the whole time and not hearing a lot from her. Hooking up was average, she made an attempt at a handy but I didn't come. She was wet before I put my hand down there, so she was turned on for sure. Problem is i'm feeling a huge lull. girl is beautiful, chill, but almost too chill... we have barely talked the two weeks since hooking up. I've heard from my friend that she is actually quite funny but she is always either shy or uninterested to me. what do I do... im confused as ****. also im taking her to prom and i actually think it will be boring because of how nonchalant she acts toward me.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Hit it off fast, but... getting bored?
- Thread starter asianbboy
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
LearningSlowly
Master Don Juan
When you're alone with her be goofy, tickle her (by blowing on her belly with your mouth). This will get her in that light-headed child-like state that we all love. Don't worry, opening up takes time, and it'll happen as you drop your own egoic barriers.
Thanks, that sounds like good advice Learning. I've heard from her past boyfriend that he broke up with her because she wanted to hang out. I'm feeling the same vibe... it's like she's disinterested. She takes no initiative to talk to me at school either. The only interest she's shown is when hooking up, and that may just be because shes horny from not having a bf for such a long time...
I'm just not sure if she's worth my time pursuing her. I'll see what happens at prom, or if she doesn't want to hang out again.
I'm just not sure if she's worth my time pursuing her. I'll see what happens at prom, or if she doesn't want to hang out again.
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Skyline
Master Don Juan
It sounds a lot like she just wants to be friends with benefits. Which is a damn good thing. You're looking for a serious relationship though, which she doesn't appear to want.asianbboy said:
My advice to you, is to basically keep things how they're going now and once you find another girl that you're interested in and have received positive vibes, THEN replace her. Just do what she's doing and keep it on the DL, after all you're the one getting some p****y