"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Hit Every 24hrs

DoubleD

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Ok.. so I've been here a while... on and off but probably only taken this seriously in the last few months.. and the results have been amazing. I've met and fClosed (on second meet) a girl from a supermarket, fClosed one gilr while on a mini holiday, had sex thown at me from various UGs that I didn't really want and generally improved my game rediculously... (Don't worry I still have room to improve.. but I have no doubt that over time.. because of commitment everything will fall into place)

Anyway.. one thing I noticed was that I couldn't pickup when I was in a bad state.. ie: Good state - Open 5 set and get phone number. Or open street mixed set (2 gilrs, 2 guys) and walk away with girls numbers. All good. But bad state.. I never used to open anything.. well till today.. Today : Open lone wolf at train station with something as exciting as "Hey is the train late?" and opened some girls at a mall with "Hey do you guys know if these stereos paly MP3s".. Yep totally lame.. Anyway I've noticed that my good state is ****ing cool.. whereas my ****ty state is still AFC.. and why? Because I have never done anything while I was in a negative state.

Since last night I have put my phone times on 24hrs. It gets reset to 24hrs every time I do an approach. The approach has to be done before the 24hrs expire.

I don't know what its like for you guys.. but I think this should be a good tool to get me used to approaching concluding etc. no matter what the state. Enogh of wastng valuable open opportunites because I didn't feel "right".
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Good Lord! Learn how to write a coherent sentence and maybe you will get some feedback. Your post was brutal to read through, Man!
 

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Originally posted by DoubleD
I have put my phone times on 24hrs. It gets reset to 24hrs every time I do an approach. The approach has to be done before the 24hrs expire.
DoubleD: Great Idea.

Of course, one can always argue, the impulse has to be in our mind, not in our phone... or "don´t approach at least 1 woman/day, approach 1/every real opportunity you have/every time you meet a girl you really find interesting"...

But I think, it is often small things that give the last improvement and I will definetely give it a try. Thx DoubleD.

>> Idea: why not start a small "tricks" collection, where everyone can post his small solutions that have helped him. I think, I will start a thread, referring to your idea.
 

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LOL. sorry dingus.. it was early in the morning for me and I can appreciate that my language skills were waaaaay down.

Milkman.. i think thats a great idea.. I'll be looking for it. And as much as I agree with you about "hit every opportunity" some days I stay @ home all day. (Work from home) So for me its important to create the opportunity activly. This being said you are 100% correct its so that I get used to hitting in every state and don't miss opportunities.

Cheers guys.
 
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