"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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tomcat2007

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Dear Everyone:
I need some advice when dealing with girls at the bar. For example, last night I was chilling with some friends at a bar night when girl asked me to a club. As a result I ended up ditching my friends and going after her-bad idea! When I go to the club she doesn't pay that much attention(some but not much-only when she wants to get a drink.) However, whenever she is ever talking some other guy I got all paranoid and agitated and I confronted her( I was also intoxicated). Back to the main point however, Am I this dense and how I do I combat this behavior, should I try to reel her in/or ditch the b****.( and deal with girls at clubs/pubs in general)

The help would be appreciated. Thanks
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Bible_Belt

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Obviously you made a lot of mistakes, but if you learn from them it is no big deal. Jealousy is the biggest mistake, especially at an environment like a club. You admitted that following her was a mistake, and it sounds like you were buying drinks for her, as well. Overall, it looks like you got played by an attention wh0re.

Put the goal of having fun before the goal of women. If you're having a good time anyway, the women are attracted to you naturally. If a girl you like goes and talks to another guy, act like you don't notice, and then go talk to a different girl. It is easy when the girl has already seen you with someone else; that demonstrates value. If girl #1 comes back, great. If not, you spend time creating attraction in girl #2. Either way you win.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Bible_Belt said:
..Put the goal of having fun before the goal of women. If you're having a good time anyway, the women are attracted to you naturally. If a girl you like goes and talks to another guy, act like you don't notice, and then go talk to a different girl. It is easy when the girl has already seen you with someone else; that demonstrates value. If girl #1 comes back, great. If not, you spend time creating attraction in girl #2. Either way you win.
Bingo! :up:
 
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