"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Hit an alltime Low

tomcat2007

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Dear Everyone:
I need some advice when dealing with girls at the bar. For example, last night I was chilling with some friends at a bar night when girl asked me to a club. As a result I ended up ditching my friends and going after her-bad idea! When I go to the club she doesn't pay that much attention(some but not much-only when she wants to get a drink.) However, whenever she is ever talking some other guy I got all paranoid and agitated and I confronted her( I was also intoxicated). Back to the main point however, Am I this dense and how I do I combat this behavior, should I try to reel her in/or ditch the b****.( and deal with girls at clubs/pubs in general)

The help would be appreciated. Thanks
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Bible_Belt

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Obviously you made a lot of mistakes, but if you learn from them it is no big deal. Jealousy is the biggest mistake, especially at an environment like a club. You admitted that following her was a mistake, and it sounds like you were buying drinks for her, as well. Overall, it looks like you got played by an attention wh0re.

Put the goal of having fun before the goal of women. If you're having a good time anyway, the women are attracted to you naturally. If a girl you like goes and talks to another guy, act like you don't notice, and then go talk to a different girl. It is easy when the girl has already seen you with someone else; that demonstrates value. If girl #1 comes back, great. If not, you spend time creating attraction in girl #2. Either way you win.
 

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Bible_Belt said:
..Put the goal of having fun before the goal of women. If you're having a good time anyway, the women are attracted to you naturally. If a girl you like goes and talks to another guy, act like you don't notice, and then go talk to a different girl. It is easy when the girl has already seen you with someone else; that demonstrates value. If girl #1 comes back, great. If not, you spend time creating attraction in girl #2. Either way you win.
Bingo! :up:
 
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