"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Personally, gym is a chore for me as well. But a necessary evil for sports conditioning, physique etc. So those are my own motivations, which I appreciate not everyone has.
My trainer is like the brother I never had, showing me the way to the promised land of unlimited pvssy (and health). I can see it now. This explains the difference between good days and bad days.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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A week ago my girlfriend saw me for the first time in 30 days and I had been working out the whole time. She was under the weather so we only hugged, but I expected to see the effect of a delayed reaction.

Sure enough, last night she watched the Super Bowl with me and for the first time she said the words "I love you" (She and I had indirectly said it on NYE, but not in those cliche words). She told me I am one in a million and that she never loved any man as much as me in her life.

We then had the best sex we've ever had. I asked her after what the difference was and she said my face and body just look so much better now. It's hard to believe the results. I had originally started working out knowing it was my only real hope to keep a 21 year old HB9. It only took 7 weeks and my dreams came true. With a Super Bowl win to boot!
 

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Good on you man. Good news stories are so few and far between here lately.

Found similar but different the last couple of months. I actually lost a couple of kilos over Christmas somehow, and then maybe a couple more since. Belly now much flatter and jawline more defined. Getting way more attention attention on a daily basis. Probably even lost muscle mass over all, but just being leaner makes a lot of difference.

What do you think have been you biggest physical improvements since you started @bigneil ?
 

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Physical trainers are definitely not a waste of money. It gives you incentive to workout more to get your money's worth and they teach you stuff you may not have known before. Besides, I hate coming up with my own workouts too lol.
 

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Physical trainers are definitely not a waste of money. It gives you incentive to workout more to get your money's worth and they teach you stuff you may not have known before. Besides, I hate coming up with my own workouts too lol.
I never really knew what to do. Also, I'm too lazy without him forcing me to skip a step.

I think I learned that the words "I love you" (from your dream girl) are born out of her pure physical attraction to you, which comes from health, which comes from diet and some (but not too much) hard physical work. 3 hours per week!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I never really knew what to do. Also, I'm too lazy without him forcing me to skip a step.

I think I learned that the words "I love you" (from your dream girl) are born out of her pure physical attraction to you, which comes from health, which comes from diet and some (but not too much) hard physical work. 3 hours per week!
Yes! A lot of them are in the moment and "feeling". The feelings will be stirred by your physical attraction, your swagger and your effect on others...
 

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I never really knew what to do. Also, I'm too lazy without him forcing me to skip a step.

I think I learned that the words "I love you" (from your dream girl) are born out of her pure physical attraction to you, which comes from health, which comes from diet and some (but not too much) hard physical work. 3 hours per week!
Those words come from a kind of epiphany they have. It is almost all done subconsciously. Not all of it is physical attraction, but it definitely plays a huge part. 3 hours per week isn't much in my opinion. When I was 14, I was doing a minimum of 7 and a half hours (sometimes 9 hours) a day. I was eating around 13,000 calories a day and got like 6 hours of sleep. Never doing that again though. I was losing weight, was tired all the time, my body probably wasn't even absorbing all the food I was eating, and I probably had adrenal fatigue now that I think about it. A typical season for me would be around 30.5 hours of exercise a week though. Currently I'm only doing 5 hours a week. Im probably gonna add another 1.5 - 2 hours soon though.
 

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Yes, 3 hours a week is nothing. Who can't afford that? Also, it's $180 for 3 hours ($60 per hour) so affordability is an issue also. But I'm seeing great results from 3 hours per week so it shows how easy it is to get in shape. (Still about 25 workouts).
 

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Yeah I think it depends upon how hard you are training and how used to it you are. Compared to the average person, I'm extremely physically fit. But for.my standards I suck and gotta get back to it. Gonna have to restructure my life soon...
 

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A week ago my girlfriend saw me for the first time in 30 days and I had been working out the whole time. She was under the weather so we only hugged, but I expected to see the effect of a delayed reaction.

Sure enough, last night she watched the Super Bowl with me and for the first time she said the words "I love you" (She and I had indirectly said it on NYE, but not in those cliche words). She told me I am one in a million and that she never loved any man as much as me in her life.

We then had the best sex we've ever had. I asked her after what the difference was and she said my face and body just look so much better now. It's hard to believe the results. I had originally started working out knowing it was my only real hope to keep a 21 year old HB9. It only took 7 weeks and my dreams came true. With a Super Bowl win to boot!
You must have been an ugg before! :D
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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You shouldnt be doing this for women. I started it that way and realized, yah I get more looks, and at pool parties I can pull in 20 minutes, but that's not what I like about it. I love looking at myself in the mirror and knowing "You did this. You put the work in and you look like a greek god." I've inspired many friends to get into shape and that's awesome as well. They've told me they saw me and wanted to look like I do, so I trained them and saw the transformatiom. Really rewarding.
 

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I know mma fighters who do personal training on the side. Those morons don't know anything about health or fitness - they're just ripped from all the fight training. When hiring trainers, customers judge them by their physique, which is stupid. In what other sport do we judge coaches by their muscles? Most paying clients are fat women, anyway, who want to spend money instead of dieting. The job itself reminds me of the Family Guy episode where Peter was retarded and got a life coach. "Yay! High-Five!"
 

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You must have been an ugg before! :D
Hmm... I was already dating the hottest girl and she already liked me, and it only took 7 weeks of 3 hours per week for her to love me. I couldn't have been too far off.

There is a often fine line between the best and average.
 

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Today I completed 4 months of working out.

Although back in October when I first took my shirt off for my girlfriend she said "you look awesome!" she says I look much better now (and this is normally when I'm at my chubbiest after wintertime). She said "it's not that you were fat before or that the texture changed, but you are so much more powerful, I can feel it".

I hadn't thought of that aspect. We don't really know our own strength, but girls we have sex with do.

And note I have achieved one goal of not losing her through the winter. In fact, she fell head over heels about 5 weeks after I started working out (and one week after seeing me with no shirt on after 4 weeks of working out, a time she had been flaky). Is this a coincidence? Working out is key.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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For wrestling fans, have you seen Jindar Mahal lately? There have been accusations in the mefia that he has been juicing (which he denies, of course). Dude's gotten majorly ripped.

But he seems to suffer from the same problem The Rock used to have, stubborn fatty areas around the nipples that give him puffy looking nipples. The Rock finally had to have surgery to correct it, maybe Mahal will too, although I doubt he has The Rock's movie star aspirations.

Funny how you can build that much muscle and obviously have a low body fat percentage, but still have little problem areas that mess with all your hard work. Just goes to show that the gym isn't the answer to everything.
 

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Today I completed 4 months of working out.

Although back in October when I first took my shirt off for my girlfriend she said "you look awesome!" she says I look much better now (and this is normally when I'm at my chubbiest after wintertime). She said "it's not that you were fat before or that the texture changed, but you are so much more powerful, I can feel it".

I hadn't thought of that aspect. We don't really know our own strength, but girls we have sex with do.

And note I have achieved one goal of not losing her through the winter. In fact, she fell head over heels about 5 weeks after I started working out (and one week after seeing me with no shirt on after 4 weeks of working out, a time she had been flaky). Is this a coincidence? Working out is key.
Every Master was once a Desaster!! Welldon keep going bigneil..
Working Out = Testosterone = Girls Panties Wet!!
I Started Working Out for 7 Years Seriously And i can tell you that My body Make Half the work when I Bang HOT BABES.
Back in the Days Girls who Knew me said Hello to me fast and like " Hello Muscle Brain"

After a Year of Hard training 5 times a week Looking like Brad Pitt in Troye..
Girls Where getting Wet Just by saying my Name, No Joke.
Like "Hello MuuuussssssccccllllleeeBbbbbrrrraaainnn"..

Haha Those GAL are Funny i Swear Calling Me The Hot Boy LOL
 

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OH I almost forget to tell You Bigneil ( FOR MOTIVATION PURPOSE)!! When you Hit the gym and are in great shape Gal Send Nudes Like Hell- (want to get Validate) Was thinking changing my Name To Sir-Fvck-a-lot but now im Tied of all that Crap *Crackup* When You Look Good Man You get Sh1t Test Like Hell Too!! CRAZY.. But the good Side is When I speak with a girl in a Club all they say is "Yeah I know you want to FVCK Me"
I Laugh and Say Well "i don't Know you and I don't FVck The First Night" After that i get the Oh Ok can i buy you a drink! And i Say No Thanks... HAHA -A few moments Later iam in Her Pants! Hahah I Love it....
So Train even when you don't feel Like GO and HIT THE GYM!!!

Downside You will Lose some Friends and Get a TON OF HATERS...
 
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For wrestling fans, have you seen Jindar Mahal lately? There have been accusations in the mefia that he has been juicing (which he denies, of course). Dude's gotten majorly ripped.

But he seems to suffer from the same problem The Rock used to have, stubborn fatty areas around the nipples that give him puffy looking nipples. The Rock finally had to have surgery to correct it, maybe Mahal will too, although I doubt he has The Rock's movie star aspirations.

Funny how you can build that much muscle and obviously have a low body fat percentage, but still have little problem areas that mess with all your hard work. Just goes to show that the gym isn't the answer to everything.
Just the way some people's bodies are. Rock, cena, new jinder dude.... they're all on roids.

6 months and he went from chubby to ripped animal. The size of his muscles and vascularity screams PED's. You just can't get that big that fast without help. Even all the research journals say working out and eating right you still can only out on 4-5 lbs of muscle naturally a year
 

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Just the way some people's bodies are. Rock, cena, new jinder dude.... they're all on roids.
Agree. Point was, these guys have put on more muscle I'm sure than most of the posters here. And even with the "help", they still had problems with their body that they had to turn to surgery to fix (not Cena that I'm aware of). Guru would approve, I'm sure :)

I just often get the impression that some guys here view pumping iron as some sort of magic pill. And maybe, for some guys, it is. Depends on exactly what the "pre-DJ" guy was lacking. Working out has many benefits, but adding some muscle isn't going to be a magic pill for a lot of guys.

I've been weightlifting for over 30 years now. I started out as a very scrawny kid, so I'm sure that the added bulk helped to increase my SMV over time (among other things). I never experienced any kind of "overnight" change from the way women treated me though. Things improved over time, as I improved in a number of areas. I'm sure the added muscularity was a factor, but it wasn't overnight, and there was more at play than that.

Unfortunately, at my age wear and tear on my joints, along with some repetition injuries, prevent me from hitting it as hard as I could when I was younger. So if I feel a little bitterness on this topic, that's likely where it from. But I really do believe that while it's a good thing to get into, it's not a magic pill.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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