Hinge prompts show their red flags and you should take that seriously

[Datinglife26]

We have all seen it, we have all ignored it too. The hinge prompts that reveal who they are. So you can avoid them.

This comes from real prompts ive seen. I also purposely went on a date with someone who was very beautiful just to test this out. And its true, you need to take them seriously when they reveal the red flag.

Keep in mind these are different women and almost all of them are one after the other on hinge. Ive only skipped a couple of accounts who had bland answers to prompts

1. "Craziest first date" "I was flown to New York " << instant nope. Expectations will be sky high, also why didnt that work out and how many other rich guys have used her as an escort?

2. "Biggest dating fail" "All of them " << Imagine a guy saying all his dates with women failed. Who would you call the problem?

3. "What if I told you" "im not like other girls, im worse" << self depreciation or hidden truth? Its probably true. She knows she hard to deal with.

4. "I recently discovered" "im the worst texter, ill either respond today or in 6 months" << not very attractive feminine energy. Other prompts were boss babe vide/big ego ....next!

5. "Dating me is like" "ordering desert before dinner, risky but worth it" << Risky? nah, this is the same as the answer "A roller coaster" I dont want to date a woman that feels risky. Profile again had big head energy/princess vibes.

6. "Green flags I look for" "ones that a red" << great, you want a man with issues because you have issues too. NEXT!

7. "The way to win me over" "be obsessed with me" << low self esteem and insecure. My ex said the same thing. They want to be validated constantly. Youll get worn out...next.

8. "Most irrational fear " "men" << okay, and you are here to find...men? Lol

9. "Most irrational fear" "catching feelings " << great, another woman who will torpedo your relationship because they cant handle closeness

10. "Dont hate me if" "im addicted to reality TV" << loves the kardashians and loves drama. Your life will be the same with her

11. "Most irrational fear" "splitting the bill on the first date" << I always pay as the man, however if a woman doesnt even offer it means they expect it. It will get taken for granted and go unappreciated

12. "Dont hate me if" "i arrive late to our date" << ie your time isn't valuable and I dont care for making a good impression. She will arrive to her hair and nail appointments on time, just not for you!

13. "Best travel story" << anything to do with Traveling to Bali. Every social media girl is in Bali because its popular.

14. "My therapist would say" "im insane but funny" << this part isnt the funny joke, shes probably insane

15. "A man doesnt have to treat me like a princess but can if he wants to and ill choose the one who wants to" << princess entitlement instant turn off. They will expect this even if they are causing issues.

16. "Dating me is like" "a headache" << again not a lie. Im sure it is.

17. "Im looking for" "early retirement" << i dont love you, I love what you can give ME. They are so blunt lol

Anyway I could go on all day. This was most of the profiles I came across. The ones that weren't like this weren't my type or just boring responses.

All the ones above were very attractive too for the most part. But so was my ex and she became an entitled pain in the ass.

So be careful and listen when people tell you who they are.

 

[Prepostereax]

That's a terrific list, and it's far from exhaustive.
I'm sure you had fun collecting the data.

In general though, I'd consider an OLD enthusiast to be a red flag in itself.

I wouldn't take any woman on OLD seriously (ie recreational purposes only), especially if she's on multiple platforms.

 

[BeExcellent]

What @Prepostereax said. I have never dated anyone I met on OLD, and went on only 3 (disappointing) dates from OLD from the scores of men who hit me up in the literal 2 (non continuous) weeks I tried it after my divorce.

Each guy was a case of false advertising and none were attractive in person. It was awful. Two guys were shorter than the stated profile and I towered over them in heels, the other was tall but obviously had used old younger photos and was pudgy.

All 3 became visibly nervous when I showed up because for whatever reason I am much prettier/more attractive than my pictures.

So ya. Terrible. After sticking my toe in the water back to real life interactions for me! I had tried OLD due to being in the small town Midwest when I divorced, and the high value men were all married already. I ended up dating someone long distance who was exactly my type, but timing didn't line up....and then I changed locations for both professional & personal opportunities.

And never had trouble in real life, so.....

Guys I know who play the field and roll through OLD get familiar with the regular OLD frequent fliers...and ya there is always a reason they are single if they are attractive and its never good.

 

[CheekyMonkey101]

There are so many delusional women on Hinge, I've had five first dates from there in the last two weeks go nowhere. It's all so tiresome.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

This is part of screening properly. People will almost always tell you exactly who they are within the first month of dating and you should always believe them. As you noted, many times they will tell you on their profile.

Most guys end up in bad situations because they screen with their d!ck instead of their brain.

Men love to blame women for problems in relationships, but in reality most times this is a result of a completely broken screening process which is the actual problem because if this was working properly they would not find themselves in those situations to begin with.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

There are so many delusional women on Hinge, I've had five first dates from there in the last two weeks go nowhere. It's all so tiresome.

OLD is simply a numbers game...always has been...I had streaks where I had like 10 first dates in a row not go anywhere and then the next 3 all ended up as longer term fvck buddies.

The problem is guys give up too easily because they don't understand the game they are playing.

Once you see it for what it is and you set up a process to constantly keep new women entering the pipeline, it's only a matter of time before you end up with numbers in your favor, as long as you are willing to calibrate between dates and change what isn't working if you see the same situations happening repeatedly.

Guys that keep going on dates, doing the exact same thing and getting the exact same poor result are not doing anything with the valuable feedback they are getting.

 

[CheekyMonkey101]

OLD is simply a numbers game...always has been...I had streaks where I had like 10 first dates in a row not go anywhere and then the next 3 all ended up as longer term fvck buddies.

The problem is guys give up too easily because they don't understand the game they are playing.

Once you see it for what it is and you set up a process to constantly keep new women entering the pipeline, it's only a matter of time before you end up with numbers in your favor, as long as you are willing to calibrate between dates and change what isn't working if you see the same situations happening repeatedly.

Guys that keep going on dates, doing the exact same thing and getting the exact same poor result are not doing anything with the valuable feedback they are getting.

I've got thousands of matches on both Hinge and Tinder now so it's an abundance reality. I do have dating fatigue as so many dates are the same.

The gym date this morning was a complete waste of time, though. Her face wasn't great but her body was okay and I was very tired and didn't smile at her once.

I think I should screen better. This approach I've had has worked loads of times, it's just recently I've been much less enthusiastic about it.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I've got thousands of matches on both Hinge and Tinder now so it's an abundance reality. I do have dating fatigue as so many dates are the same.

The gym date this morning was a complete waste of time, though. Her face wasn't great but her body was okay and I was very tired and didn't smile at her once.

I think I should screen better. This approach I've had has worked loads of times, it's just recently I've been much less enthusiastic about it.

I'd never ever go on a gym date...low probabilities with that one.

Plus the gym is a business trip to me, I don't want any distractions to my workout or time wasting.

 

[Barrister]

Good list, OP.

Keep in mind that the fact a woman is on OLD is generally a red flag to begin with. Only exception is when a woman just got out of relationship and is (briefly) on OLD before she swings to her next relationship. Most hot women never have any reason to be on OLD, so the fact they are generally signals there’s a major issue there.

 

[Datinglife26]

Good list, OP.

Keep in mind that the fact a woman is on OLD is generally a red flag to begin with. Only exception is when a woman just got out of relationship and is (briefly) on OLD before she swings to her next relationship. Most hot women never have any reason to be on OLD, so the fact they are generally signals there’s a major issue there.

True, sucks because where I live is a small town with limit options. I work alone in my own business too.

I can get matches just im on red flag alert after becoming single again lol

 

[BPH]

I frequently see the response to "First round's on me if..." as "It's never on me".

I also remember seeing one that said for "My unusual talent..." she wrote "bullying men"...I'm sure she's wonderful.

I will say that there's a shocking level of entitlement on dating apps where so many women seem to be comfortable trying to actively disqualify men from liking them.

 

[Datinglife26]

I frequently see the response to "First round's on me if..." as "It's never on me".

I also remember seeing one that said for "My unusual talent..." she wrote "bullying men"...I'm sure she's wonderful.

I will say that there's a shocking level of entitlement on dating apps where so many women seem to be comfortable trying to actively disqualify men from liking them.

"Unusual skill" "Maniuplating men"

"Ill fall for you if" "youre obsessed with me and always tell me yes"

It's actually crazy. Tbh there seems to be enough Simps where it works for these women. They will find some guy to treat like **** who will probably marry them.

 

[Datinglife26]

This is part of screening properly. People will almost always tell you exactly who they are within the first month of dating and you should always believe them. As you noted, many times they will tell you on their profile.

Most guys end up in bad situations because they screen with their d!ck instead of their brain.

Men love to blame women for problems in relationships, but in reality most times this is a result of a completely broken screening process which is the actual problem because if this was working properly they would not find themselves in those situations to begin with.

My ex in the last year started saying things that I now swipe no on Hinge.

Like "I want a man with a provider mindset"

Instantly know from experience with my ex this translates to "i can do or say anything without putting much effort into to keeping you attracted and you will do as I say"

Needless to say I held my boundaries with my ex and told her its equal effort and that she was slacking, for her to tell me that I didnt love her lol

 

[sevbucmash]

Something like this https://genius.com/Too-short-pimpandhocom-lyrics

 

[Bokanovsky]

My ex in the last year started saying things that I now swipe no on Hinge.

Like "I want a man with a provider mindset"

Instantly know from experience with my ex this translates to "i can do or say anything without putting much effort into to keeping you attracted and you will do as I say"

Needless to say I held my boundaries with my ex and told her its equal effort and that she was slacking, for her to tell me that I didnt love her lol

Can you imagine a guy saying "I'm looking for a girl with a servant mindset"? He would probably get banned from the dating app.

 

[Datinglife26]

Can you imagine a guy saying "I'm looking for a girl with a servant mindset"? He would probably get banned from the dating app.

Its actually crazy.
No joke this is what someone on hinge again is asking for

"Im looking for a man in finance 6'5 blue eyes who will be spoiling me for my birthday this month"

Same girl also has
"No brokies
Cant follow other girls on social media
Should cry when I dont respond and be obsessed with me"

She good looking, but jesus christ that ego would only ever make me want to pump and dump.

The irony is that if she just got rid of that attitude she would probably find some rich Chad.

I think a lot of women think they just need to be pretty, my ex had this idea that shes going to find some wealthy Chad who will just give her the world lol

Successful guys with back bones who aren't chumps generally can spot gold diggers.

The best they can hope for is to find a simp they will never really respect or love.

 

[Captain Redbeard]

I will say that there's a shocking level of entitlement on dating apps where so many women seem to be comfortable trying to actively disqualify men from liking them.

Part of this stems from the fact that they get inundated with matches. But they end up screening themselves out of the guys they actually want.

Like "I want a man with a provider mindset"

Avoid these women like the plague. I am naturally generous with people in my life but I hate when that generosity is expected and not appreciated. Nothing will turn me off faster than a woman demanding gifts, money, etc.

 

[plumber]

I frequently see the response to "First round's on me if..." as "It's never on me".

I also remember seeing one that said for "My unusual talent..." she wrote "bullying men"...I'm sure she's wonderful.

I will say that there's a shocking level of entitlement on dating apps where so many women seem to be comfortable trying to actively disqualify men from liking them.

filtering for insecurity.

 

[Solomon]

90% of women would be eliminated then ha ha ha

But jokes aside OP is spot on, women will tell you Red flags early on if you pay attention, most men know there are red flags but in hopes of getting some booty, they will disregard it. One of the things that is a blessing about getting older is, you don't think with your little head. There are so many red flags now, especially as you get older, it's like a minefield. So many men deal with b.s. issues because they get they rather deal with it getting consistent ass than peace of mind until shyt gets really toxic

Personally if a woman looks at me wrong, I'll end it (joking) great list OP

This is part of screening properly. People will almost always tell you exactly who they are within the first month of dating and you should always believe them. As you noted, many times they will tell you on their profile.

Most guys end up in bad situations because they screen with their d!ck instead of their brain.

Men love to blame women for problems in relationships, but in reality most times this is a result of a completely broken screening process which is the actual problem because if this was working properly they would not find themselves in those situations to begin with.

^^This people laugh at me when I say keep field reports (keep it private, it's not 2005 anymore to many eyes on this site, not registered) but keeping FR's is what helped me improve fast when I first came here because I saw the mistakes I was making. The last 2 years, I've been keeping a dating journal on various dates, to see patterns or spot a particular thing. The main culprit was qualifying now in my defense, sometimes especially with online dating, there are certain things you can't qualify before the date. However, I have improved my qualifying before the date tremendously in the last 2 years, to the point that I canceled some dates because you know you and the girl just aren't compatible so why waste your time?

Good list, OP.

Keep in mind that the fact a woman is on OLD is generally a red flag to begin with. Only exception is when a woman just got out of relationship and is (briefly) on OLD before she swings to her next relationship. Most hot women never have any reason to be on OLD, so the fact they are generally signals there’s a major issue there.

Once again spot on, this is why I always chuckle when guys say "The same women you meet in person are online." nope I know girls personally that may have tried online dating but they are not active, then theere are girls who don'tneed it cause they get hit on enough etc. I think this is more glaring obvious if you're in a Big City or Mid size town, if you in a big city and a woman has a active social life and she is a smokeshow why would she need online dating?

I frequently see the response to "First round's on me if..." as "It's never on me".

I also remember seeing one that said for "My unusual talent..." she wrote "bullying men"...I'm sure she's wonderful.

I will say that there's a shocking level of entitlement on dating apps where so many women seem to be comfortable trying to actively disqualify men from liking them.

The women have not just become entitled but also insufferable and demanding with their dating standards or things they looking for. I've gone on many first dates, especially since COVID, where the woman will say something on the date that's just a turn-off. For example, one woman was in her mid-40s and wanted to be a kept girlfriend (you know the guy pays the bills, and gives her an allowance, basically a glorified sugar daddy) The chick sounded insane because we both knew it was a hook up, needless to say after we both decided to part ways and I was totally fine with that until she started running her mouth

 

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